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I feel bullied in my job

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MerinoFroggie · 18/01/2021 12:38

About two years ago, my employer developed a problem with her business partner. I saw the dirt and the drama that went on and it was totally wrong but I felt it wasn't my place to get involved. There was an issue about holidays between the two partners. Basically my current employer, she went away on a two week holiday. The other business partner wanted a Friday and possibly even the Monday off. She was willing to look for someone to step in for her but the other business partner wasn't happy with her getting a day or 2 off while she was away on holidays. I felt so bad for the other lady.

My employer went about expelling her business partner over wanting a day or two off. She created so much drama and developed other issues about her and about her productivity. My employer was successful at expelling her business partner.

Ever since then, she's been on a power trip. She's claiming 100% credit for the business, all information about how the business was set up was written out from the Webpage. No history how it was founder and developed by 2 people, not just her.

She's becoming very difficult to work for now. She dishes orders at me and just speaks down to me. I had Christmas eve and Christmas day off work followed by the Saturday and the Sunday.

I had New Year's day off work followed by the Saturday and Sunday. I went back to work on the Monday.

She proceeded to give out to me over a backlog that occurred over Christmas even though I wasn't there to sort it out. I did as much as I could the week I went back too but she still found problems in my work. It was dirty and nasty from her.

She shouts orders at me from across the building and not only that she speaks to me in such a dirty, sharp tone. She clearly has a problem with me but won't say it, either that or she enjoys treating others like shit. She was in a fowl mood last week. Thankfully she's not about all the time so it's not dreadfully all the time but about once or twice a week, she is about the place on her high horse.

I don't have a union or a HR department. I'm looking for new work but it's difficult times for job hunting. I am not fussy about the work I will do. I am looking at factory work, shop work, hotel work, anything to get me out from where I am. Maybe when I sorted with a new job, I might study part time or online at something but I can't think of that right now. My focus is getting a new job where I will hopefully be respected and not talked to as if I'm a piece of shit at the end of her high heels.

I'm not depressed but I think I could be going down that path. I'm not happy. I'm looking for new work and I'm unsuccessful. The only thing that's keeping me going is thinking of the positives - regular income, close to home but its becoming harder and harder.

I need a mental health day this week and take a day off and stay away from her and let her carry some of the load instead of shitting on my back while I do nothing but help her.

Would you pull a sickie day in a situation like this? I'm really dreading working beside her and her dirty filthy moods. I won't be phoning into work saying 'mental health day', I have another excuse on the way that's not covid related. It will be half truth too so not really a lie as such.

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MerinoFroggie · 18/01/2021 12:42

Has others here pulled a sickie day and do you ever feel guilty about it or do you enjoy a day off away from the madness?

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LaBellina · 18/01/2021 12:52

I think from a moral point of view, you're completely entitled to one or more sickie days. She sounds like a Total Nightmare.

The question is rather: would this get you into more trouble with this bully?

MerinoFroggie · 18/01/2021 13:25

I probably shouldnt have gone into the history of the business partner but I did because its paints a true picture. The woman is on a power flinging shit.

Another issue I have is that she uses the kitchen and leaves her delph as of its my job to clean up after her and then she huffs when she sees the kitchen wasn't cleaned up after her. Real spoilt attitude.

She also reminds me of an abusive husband and where she comes in and rants and picks out stuff that has not been done instead of seeing all the work that has been done. It's a brutal atmosphere.

A sick day probably won't get me into more trouble and if it does at this stage, I don't care, I'm on the verge of walking out. If she gives out to me for taking a sick day, it will definitely be poor form and there would probably be a legal issue than.

Other legal issues are quite questionable. If it was up to her, I would be running across a wet floor instead of proceeding with caution and going slowly.

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