Estranged Parents

[PandemicMum]

My relationship with my parents has always been rocky. There were times when I thought I was close with them, then they would just push me away. They have not been part of my kids life. Not that I haven't tried. I was very close with my grandparents. After my grandfather died, my mom left me dad, gave my brother over to social services (he's disabled) and was more interested in men than having a relationship with me and my children. She's had many affairs throughout the years. My grandmother passed away in 2013 and things became even worse with my mom. She was extremely resentful about inheritance my grandmother gave me and, well, we have not spoken since. I had a really hard time with everything, became depressed and moved with my family. Things have a way of circling back and we moved back home just before this pandemic hit. It was a rough year. You see I was left the property and had was renting it out. My dad lives next door (my grandparents had given them a lot). I thought I could rekindle a relationship with my dad, but he's became extremely hostile. Apparently he had made a deal with my tenants to sublet the property for farming and was profiting quite well off of it and he told them he owned it (16 acres). Needless to say, that is no longer occurring but my tenants still go over to his house. They spy on us all of the time. Shine lasers, pop off a gun, watching with binoculars, yelling. Its to the point we lock the doors all of the time. My kids don't even like to go outside. We had a fire in the garage that killed our baby chicks - I know they did it. They poisoned our chickens out in the field. I'm really trying to keep this property for my children but at the same time I don't know how to resolve this situation. Its beyond talking now. We've installed cameras and any sign of wrongful doing will be reported to the police. But I just cannot believe the level that this has escalated to. Its so depressing to have to deal with this in addition to everything else going on in the world. My dad is supposed to be playing with his grandkids and instead this is how we are treated.

I think the only solution is to sell the property and move away. You can keep the next property for your children. Any fond memories of the property having been your grandmother's have surely been obliterated by all the nasty goings-on.

That is terrible, I agree you need to sell up. Whilst you may want your children to inherit the property, they may not wish to inherit this from you and you will have spent their childhood living with your parents unpleasantness.

This sounds very difficult. You're now an adult with an inherited property, you do not need to put your children through this. Sell up, choose a beautiful home with your children where their chicks and chickens won't be harmed. Get counselling to deal with your crap parents and start a fresh happy life where your children can happily play outside and make lovely memories.

I had it on the sellers market 2x. The problem is the way the property lines are drawn because my grandparents gave my parents part of the land after they married. Not an easy sell unless I am able to get my dad's property back, then sell together. It has affected the kids and none of them want to be here, even though it is beautiful. We're stuck too because of this pandemic, which hopefully and God willing will end soon. Its just so lonely here and isolated. I think we are all feeling the effects of isolation and then having this situation on top of it. I'm not much for social media - think it has had such a negative influence on society and how people just live in the internet world. Our plan is to move to my husband's country, but its going to take time to get everything prepared. So the big dream - win the lottery LOL. But in the meantime, cultural therapy, as I call it. Hubby is from the Philippines. I want to do humanitarian/veterinary work and he wants to run for mayor. I think it would be good for the kids too. They need anti-game therapy. Limited internet there. As far as here - set up a group home for disabled, so I can get custody of my brother. But of course all of that takes $$. I'm not one to go to a shrink and lay on the couch crying my problems out. They can't help my situation and would likely try to turn me into a pill popper with antidepressants. I guess we will see what happens.