My Dsis is due to be married this summer, overseas. We have 3 children, 2 of whom have been asked to be ‘involved’ in the wedding (youngest is a baby so not being left out!).
The destination will be very, very hot, late 30 Celsius, and I had bought some linen outfits for them to wear to try and keep cool. We are all very fair skinned. (This was prior to them being asked to be involved).
Their roles are a sort of flower girl and another little boy role that is traditional where the wedding will be, but not a page boy (from what I understand).
Anyway, I’m now being sent photos of outfits that they would like them to wear. But the dresses look like cheap lace that would be horribly sweaty.
These have been sent as ‘ideas’ but nothing concrete, and there’s a definite undertone of ‘buy this’.
I’m a bit surprised as I understood it that any outfits that were required by the bride and groom would be bought by them? Or am I wrong?
The wedding/flights/accommodation/car hire is likely to cost well into the thousands for us to go.
I know I’m probably being silly, but I just want the children to be comfortable and not have to pay for additional outfits they will never wear again.
Dsis isn’t really the type you can have this conversation with, and my parents, who were very critical of my own wedding, seem to see no issue, and assume we can and will just afford it.
I think the thought of the whole thing is starting to stress me out, and with so much going on currently, I just have no desire to pay for more crap that we don’t need or want.
But similarly I don’t want to be a pain in the arse as I know weddings are a nightmare!
Any words of wisdom?