Have you looked up your past bullies on FB?....

[MoreGLessT]

And did you make contact? Did it help or just open wounds?

I'm mid 30's, but have only very recently joined social media and I couldn't help but search for my school bullies.

What was I hoping to find? Well, is it wrong that I wasn't exactly hoping for profiles of beautiful and successful people?..

Have you done this? I don't really know how I feel tbh. Part of me wants to ask if they remember doing x, y and z....do they realise the impact they've had on my life? But this was 20 plus years ago! I'd be wrong to do this, right?

Does anyone have experience with this?

Yes it was , was very much a mean girls teenager situation at the time but had a big impact on my confidence at the time which took some time to move on from for me.
But that acknowledgment has given me a certain amount of comfort about myself at the time

@SugarbabyMilly

I’d never contact them. Most people don’t change.

Actually - going on the person I posted about - I really don't think she's changed much.

I do think she's grown as a person and had some issues she needed to get over from her childhood/teenager-hood - I didn't know her as a child.

However, this person trying to practice and sell me their 'therapy' really didn't sit well with me - it was almost like she was doing as she did in the past which was part trying to help me.

It culminated in her essentially palming her teenage (I think still at school) DD onto a friend when she went to live and study somewhere else for a few years (not saying anymore in case outing though I suppose that might be) and it backfired completely - personally I can't see why you would do that, or, if you did want to do it, surely you'd move with your DD?

So ultimately based on the above I don't think she has changed really. Or not enough so I want to be proper friends with her. I'm still nice to her on Instagram and I might meet up with her once but that's as far as it goes.