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I think my nearly 10 year old need a bra??

16 replies

INeedADayOff · 13/01/2021 07:58

Can anyone help?

I’m not sure if my nearly 10 year old is just getting a bit bigger as we’ve stopped most of the normal weekly activities (swimming, hockey, and now only do a daily walk) and bless her she’s put on a little weight (mainly my fault for not altering our diet and Christmas and not enough for her bmi to be too high) I’m expecting her to shoot up again as well but this time I’ve noticed she’s developing rather rapidly it’s been over the past 4 weeks.

When is the right time for a bra? Does she need one at nearly 10? I’m guess I’m asking when’s the right time? I don’t want to get her one and her not want it use? Or use it? Obviously I will have a chat with her and see what she says I just wanted other parents advice?

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DitherFlicker · 13/01/2021 08:01

Mine started wearing more structured crop tops at that age...as did a lot of Y5 and Y6 friends. Nowadays so many 'bralette' styles around that it doesn't need to be a big step up....M &S do lots of teen styles that will be suitable.

DitherFlicker · 13/01/2021 08:04

Up to Y5 she had been wearing vests so I do remember the first crop top felt a bit grown up....to me, not to her!

CodyBurns · 13/01/2021 08:05

I had a bra at 9, because I developed early. My niece is also developing early so I don’t think it really matters about age and is more about comfort. M&S do some very good bras for younger girls, although fitting might be a problem at the moment. There are tutorials online for measuring so you may be able to do it yourself (if she will let you and she’s not too bashful), but there probably needs to be a conversation about how our bodies change so she understands what is happening and that she will need to start wearing a bra.

In normal circumstances there could be a fun girly day out with hot chocolate and some treats followed by a visit to a bra shop (to make it nice). So you may want to hold off a little while so the experience can be a bit more special.

I suppose it depends on how quickly she is developing and whether she is uncomfortable.

LlamaofDrama · 13/01/2021 08:08

My DD is nearly 11 and wears crop tops, I looked at her over Christmas and thought maybe a bra, so I measured, and not yet. Although I can see her being my shape with a narrow back and a less narrow front which is going to be tricky when she's too narrow in the back for the smallest bra but needs more support than a crop top would give.

TeenPlusTwenties · 13/01/2021 08:11

Agree, if she's not needed anything up to now then a supportive crop top is a good first step. If she is bigger than that try the M&S teenangels range.

foxhat · 13/01/2021 08:36

We can't answer this by thinking about her age. It's not an age thing, it's a development thing. When thing open up I'd suggest going to M&S for a fitting. They will be able to help. My DD started wearing a bra at about that age, started periods at 11 and at age 13 is now a g cup so just developed early (ish).

TeenPlusTwenties · 13/01/2021 08:42

M&S
Seam free crop tops

H1978 · 13/01/2021 08:57

Dd10 also looks like she might need a bra soon. I’m sure she grows each time I see her in the shower. She has crop tops but still prefers her vests. I fear she’s going to be top heavy like me but petite, not the ideal combo imo.

IEat · 13/01/2021 09:17

Mine was 10. She wears sports bras , she hate the look of a bra bra . Whatever she’s comfy in. She does wear a T-shirt over it and her blouse as she doesn’t want anyone seeing it

MoiraNotRuby · 13/01/2021 09:20

God I hate these type of posts.

The internet is not a good place to discuss children's underwear and what sort they need.

297vic · 13/01/2021 09:28

@MoiraNotRuby
This!

Almostslimjim · 13/01/2021 09:30

Measure her using the boob or bust website DO NOT take her to M&S unless you want to set her up for a lifetime of badly fitting bras

wizzbangfizz · 13/01/2021 10:30

Structured crop tops here too.

movingonup20 · 13/01/2021 10:31

Crop tops/sports bras are a good intermediary step - or M&S used to have very soft ones in the children's department (not the angel ones that are more structured for teens) mine had them about 11/12

ncccc2 · 13/01/2021 10:31

i'd be so angry if my mum spread my information about my chest to strangers.

ShowOfHands · 13/01/2021 10:39

In normal circumstances there could be a fun girly day out with hot chocolate and some treats followed by a visit to a bra shop (to make it nice)

Depends on the child. My DD would have disowned me if I'd tried to make an event out of clothes or described anything as a girly treat, especially involving shopping!

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