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Are your teenagers still meeting up with their friends?

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Rollergirl11 · 10/01/2021 16:10

I know that you can meet one person from another household for exercise but it is apparent that a lot of DD’s friends are just taking that as an opportunity to meet up with each other. Then meet up with someone else new the next day. I see that as completely bending the rules and is just unnecessary mixing of multiple households. Luckily DD doesn’t agree with it and hasn’t asked to do the same. Obviously lots of parents are allowing this (DD’s friends parents that I know included) so please can someone who thinks this is okay explain their reasoning?

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Vickles20 · 10/01/2021 19:56

No. Mine have not met up and won’t either. Kind of goes against the idea doesn’t it!?!!
Did you see the thread added recently of someone who walked with their friend? Friend now has covid. Does she? Doesn’t she?!?! Not really worth the risk in my opinion

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Rollergirl11 · 10/01/2021 20:06

@BilboBercow

Typical of on here, so many people trying to set their own rules and accusing people of "bending the rules" for doing the things they're absolutely allowed to do.
Do you genuinely not see the problem with people meeting up with multiple households on a very frequent basis at a time when the virus is raging out of control and our hospitals are running out of beds?
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AnotherStupidQuestion · 10/01/2021 20:12

Do you genuinely not see the problem with people meeting up with multiple households on a very frequent basis at a time when the virus is raging out of control and our hospitals are running out of beds?

If they are meeting up outside, the risk is minimal. You can meet up outdoors with one person at a time. Its doesn't have to be the same person every time.

My daughter won't meet up with any of her friends though. The last time she did, they saw 3 police cars and it scared her as she was convinced they were looking for people breaking the rules. Even though they weren't doing so.

Bagamoyo1 · 10/01/2021 20:13

roller there are more ways to be ill that Covid.
I think teens being out doors 2 at a time offers negligible risk, compared to the benefit.

It’s not healthy for teens to be locked up all day.

Babyroobs · 10/01/2021 20:33

My ds saw a friend today for a walk and my ds3 met his girlfriend for a walk. This is the first time since we went into this lock down though.

EBathory · 10/01/2021 20:38

Yes, lives alone and is having friends over as before, as am I but I really have people over anyway we all need to survive covid whether that be avoid the virus or avoid suicide

squarepinks · 10/01/2021 20:48

@EBathory

Yes, lives alone and is having friends over as before, as am I but I really have people over anyway we all need to survive covid whether that be avoid the virus or avoid suicide
Like mother, like daughter. You are both being incredibly selfish.
Fembot123 · 10/01/2021 20:49

@MushMonster

Nope, she has met no-one bar us since she broke from school, so on the 18th December. If she goes out, it is food shopping or walking with me. And no way I will allower to mingle with anyone till that curve goes down! And this is for her own safety, because I do not want her to get ill, even if the possibility is low, neither do I want any of her friends being ill. She is perfectly fine. She talks and plays with her friends from morning till late. She is lucky they all have unlimited internet. They can videocall. Many of the games they play allow them to speak to the group playing at the same time.
You’d get ripped a new one on a lot of threads for taking her to the supermarket with you.
EBathory · 10/01/2021 21:12

Meh selfishness = survival

littlemisslozza · 10/01/2021 21:18

No. They have great online social lives now, mostly around gaming and they are seeing their classmates on Teams for school. We go out as a family.to walk the dog.

I really want us to get out of this mess asap for the sake of everyone, and particularly our children, so would much rather people stopped stretching the rules. Fair enough, if you live alone a walk with one other (who probably should be the same person if we're going to minimise contacts) is important to mental health. Otherwise I think the government need to be firmer on this for a few weeks as it's just going to drag this whole thing out longer. Transmission of the new variant is so much higher and seems to be caught outdoors too.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 10/01/2021 21:26

My 17 year old went for a walk with a friend a week ago. That’s it, other than one run to the supermarket a few days ago. She’s not the most social child, and she’d like stuff to go back to normal quicker.

EBathory · 10/01/2021 21:31

Although this is not within the 'rules' it is still less social mixing than non Covid times, as we cannot meet randoms in public places.

SoupDragon · 10/01/2021 21:32

@EBathory

Meh selfishness = survival
and this is why we are in this heap of shit.
justanotherneighinparadise · 10/01/2021 21:35

No that isn’t why we are in a heap of shit. We’re in a global pandemic suffering the consequences of a novel virus. Some teenagers not meeting for a walk is not going to get us out of this. Stop being hysterical.

NovemberR · 10/01/2021 21:35

No. There is nowhere to go. We live in a village. None of their friends live in the same one. It's freezing cold and nowhere is open.

MirandaWest · 10/01/2021 21:41

DD 15 met a friend last Wednesday for a walk. She’s planning to meet another friend for a walk next Wednesday.

DS 17 hasn’t met anyone.

SnoozyLou · 10/01/2021 21:42

Surprisingly, they aren’t - in any other aspect of their lives. I don’t understand them ignoring the rules - makes no sense.

Remember about 9 months ago, with all those pictures coming out of Bergamo, and everyone cried for Italy?

We are in as bad, if not a worse state now, and yet so many people are in complete denial. Not the majority, thankfully, but still far, far too many.

heLacksnotluster · 10/01/2021 21:46

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MrsDThomas · 10/01/2021 21:52

DD1 meets up for walks a few tines a week. So does DD2. I do it so why can’t they?
DS is glues to his PS.

MrsMiaWallis · 10/01/2021 21:56

My 14 year old goes riding with a friend twice a week.

18 year old and 21 year old haven't met anyone. They went to the pub for a meal just before lockdown so its not been that long that they've not seen anyone. It's boring for them but they are working hard school/uni and taking the opportunity to get their heads down. Their mental health is fine.

MrsMiaWallis · 10/01/2021 21:58

Words like "survival" are just stupid. Yes its boring, yes it's depressing but just read a book and text your mates. It won't be forever.

Whyisitsodifficult · 10/01/2021 21:59

Really some of you are unbelievable! We are allowed to meet up outside for exercise, whether you’re 13 or 30 it’s allowed. I actively kick my teens out everyday to meet a friend after they’ve been sat staring at a screen all day. They run, cycle, play football and no they don’t lick it because they’re sensible and not fucking idiots! There is more risk to them becoming ill through obesity or mental health issues than playing football outside with a mate. The ones that are keeping them inside will be moaning in months to come that you can’t get your teens outside! 🙄

EvilEdna1 · 10/01/2021 22:00

Only online.

Whyisitsodifficult · 10/01/2021 22:00

@heLacksnotluster

No. They aren’t allowed🙄
Yes they are! 🙄
inquietant · 10/01/2021 22:01

@justanotherneighinparadise

No that isn’t why we are in a heap of shit. We’re in a global pandemic suffering the consequences of a novel virus. Some teenagers not meeting for a walk is not going to get us out of this. Stop being hysterical.
What do people think enables the virus to spread if not human contact Confused
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