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Does anyone else cry easily?

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BaggoMcoys · 09/01/2021 02:41

I'm not like the Sistine Chapel screaming woman (for anyone who remembers that thread), but I do cry really easily. I'm pretty tough on the inside, I've had a lot of challenges in life and cope well with problems. I wouldn't say I have self esteem issues, yet I cry like a baby at the silliest of things. It looks like I'm more emotionally affected than I actually am, but I cannot control it.

Bit of an extreme example here, and this has never happened but it's like, someone at work might say "I don't like your coat" and I will cry. I won't actually care that Susan in accounts doesn't like my coat. I won't dwell on it, or go out and buy a new coat, but I will cry at the time anyway.

I don't know if it's some kind of hormone thing or what, but I am sure I didn't used to be this way! Is anyone else like this, and has anyone ever found a way to control it?

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AlexaShutUp · 09/01/2021 02:48

I cry really easily too. It's embarrassing. I'm afraid I haven't found any solutions yet, but will be following with interest.

GetTheDebtGoneIn2021 · 09/01/2021 03:01

Only when I’ve been on the Pill or menopausal.

Avacadoandtoast · 09/01/2021 03:16

Yup - and I hate it. I think it’s triggered more easily when I’m really tired. I’d considered hypnotherapy before but never tried it.

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BaggoMcoys · 09/01/2021 04:14

@GetTheDebtGoneIn2021

Only when I’ve been on the Pill or menopausal.

I did cry easily when I was on the pill, that's what made me think it could be a hormonal thing. I was only on it for a short time in my early 20s though. I'm 33 so think the menopause is unlikely. It's really odd, as well as annoying and sometimes embarrassing. I was trying to work out when I started crying so easily and I'm not sure, but I feel like it might have been going on for a couple of years now.

Avacadoandtoast I wonder if there are any self help books for controlling crying or something like that. I might have a look. Hadn't thought of hypnotherapy but I think it would be out of my budget atm.

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Bunchup · 09/01/2021 04:49

I cry when I'm frustrated or knackered.
This means that I cry a lot at work because I've always had frustrating, knackering jobs.
I don't worry about it. I'm not suppressing my legitimate emotional responses for an employer. I'm not a robot.

Aspiringmatriarch · 09/01/2021 04:59

I'm on SSRIs which have been a huge help for me mentally but make it really hard to cry even when I know I need to iyswim.

However, today I found out that the winter coat I ordered two weeks ago isn't coming (out of stock) and I cried all the way home in my car . I have NO idea why.

amusedbush · 09/01/2021 08:24

I cry when I’m angry or frustrated. I cried while trying to build a flat pack TV unit because the screws were too small to hold and get the screwdriver in at the same time so I kept dropping them

FippertyGibbett · 09/01/2021 08:26

I definitely think hormones play a part, I cry at certain times of the month when I wouldn’t usually.
I also cry when I’m frustrated, when I know I’m right but can’t prove it.

wellthatsunusual · 09/01/2021 08:27

I used to when I was younger, and I absolutely hated it. I couldn't control it, no matter how hard I tried.

Now I'm older, it's once in a blue moon. I do take a hefty dose of antidepressants though, and have done for a long time, so maybe it's that.

QuantumJump · 09/01/2021 08:27

I cry easily at books and films. Almost never in real life though.

4Mongrels · 09/01/2021 08:30

Yes, but I really wish I didn’t. I went to a relatives funeral and cried more than the immediate family. We weren’t very close (only due to distance, he was lovely) and I felt so embarrassed.

I also cry with frustration and feel pathetic if I cry during an argument.

It makes people think I’m weak which annoys me even more than the crying does!

Emeeno1 · 09/01/2021 08:30

Yes, and it is embarrassing.

Bawdrip · 09/01/2021 08:34

I don't exactly cry, but my eyes tear up really easily. For example when I met my friend's baby for the first time I was saying he's really gorgeous and my eyes well up like I'm suppressing crying. It's very embarrassing. Or if I say offhand to someone oh i like your hair/coat/puppy. In my head I just casually like it. On my face I look like I'm really emotional which can make me look crazy or jealous or deeply upset. This never used to happen. I think it's since having kids. I hate it. It's not as bad in the summer when I can wear sunglasses. If I blink a lot of stops. Can't do this without sunglasses on though!

paintedpanda · 09/01/2021 08:36

I cry over everything. I cry when I'm angry, sad, happy, frustrated, laughing...
I've seen people say they view it as manipulative, so you get your own way, but I just can't stop them coming. Or it's seen as a weakness, which is infuriating.

RomeoLikedCapuletGirls · 09/01/2021 08:39

If you look at crying as a biological reaction and not necessarily an over-emotional one then you won’t worry about it.

Our society tends to make the stupid assumption that crying = emotional and that to be emotional is to be lacking in reason or intellect.

EssexLioness · 09/01/2021 08:44

Yes, I also cry at everything, especially when frustrated. I have even cried at work a few times when trying to explain my frustrations, it’s not that I am upset but the tears just flow and I can’t help it. I feel it undermines the valid point I am trying to make and I hate it. I have actually been through several major traumas in my life and just got on with them, so I am a lot tougher than people realise. But the little stuff, I cry at all the time, always have.
Now I’m perimenopausal though it is worse cos I actually cry for real things much more too, as I seem to be more emotional. I cry at songs, films etc far too often

MellowYellow101 · 09/01/2021 08:57

@Bunchup

I cry when I'm frustrated or knackered. This means that I cry a lot at work because I've always had frustrating, knackering jobs. I don't worry about it. I'm not suppressing my legitimate emotional responses for an employer. I'm not a robot.

Me too! I also cry when I get super angry. I feel my blood boiling then I just burst into tears and have a rant.

ProbablyFault · 09/01/2021 08:58

I cried a little bit when I listed to a GP talking about her day vaccinating lots of people, and how hard lots of people are working to make this happen.

I sometimes cry at work too, but that's because it can hideous sometimes.

I also find that some music makes me a bit teary.

😭

Pickypolly · 09/01/2021 09:08

Oh op I absolutely love your opening post and actually laughed loudly at the Sistine chapel lady comment as I remember actually crying with laughter at that thread, and Susan in accounts made me chuckle too.

Even if I see a slight chin wobble on someone getting emotional I cry!
It’s a very highly sensitive sympathetic, empathetic reaction that is in me I suppose.
I’m a bit of a hard faced cow until someone gets upset. It’s bloody annoying.

Anyway, thanks for making me laugh op, you are fab

kirktonhouse · 09/01/2021 09:09

All the fucking time right now, at good things and bad things, not sure if it's a lockdown/covid thing or age related, I'm 49.

EternalOptimist7 · 09/01/2021 09:18

I have always cried easily, more so since having DD. Sometimes I only have to vaguely think of something sad & I’m gone. Always crying at films, tv etc & more than once have had to pull over whilst driving because a song or piece of music on the radio has made me sob. I cried at work the other day when my Manager told me off ( not in front of her though).

swiggles · 09/01/2021 09:18

I have always cried at anything very easily! Less so when frustrated.
Also cried multiple times at work, when trying to relay a point, when delivering feedback or even receiving it (good and bad) and find it very embarrassing. Cried lots when colleagues leave- even ones I'm not particularly close to. Sobbed for an hour at an advert once in front of in laws, no one else battered an eyelid.
Funerals are the worst. I always worry I'm the most emotional one there. I've tried to think of things that make me happy to try to stop the tears but they just come flooding in!

peak2021 · 09/01/2021 09:46

Matt Hancock does it seems judging by some recent interviews.

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BaggoMcoys · 09/01/2021 13:49

@Pickypolly

Anyway, thanks for making me laugh op, you are fab

Haha the Sistine chapel woman is one of my favourite ever threads! Thanks

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BaggoMcoys · 09/01/2021 13:51

it’s not that I am upset but the tears just flow and I can’t help it. I feel it undermines the valid point I am trying to make and I hate it.

Yes this is how I feel too. I don't mind crying sometimes but I don't want to cry at the drop of a hat.

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