Would you prefer to be buried or cremated?

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I have thought about this a lot and I really don't know what I want and the pros and cons of each option. I really want to make a decision and tell my husband and children so they know for whenever the time comes (hopefully in many, many years) rather than them not knowing and having to make that decision for me. So I've come on here to ask - which would you prefer and why?

I will be buried in woodland in a natural burial site, place booked and paid for. No grave stones. Bird houses are allowed with a small plaque and some graves have stones/pebbles or twigs/sticks to mark around the graves. The graves are hand dug, no machinery. Only natural caskets allowed that will biodegrade. It's very peaceful and has an ancient feeling about it.

Cremated for me. I dont want my family to feel they have to visit my graveside/headstone as a mark of respect.

Cremated and scattered ashes !

Mum and Dad were both cremated, but had their ashes interred in a small decorative plot with a double sided headstone and holders for flowers in a local garden of remembrance. It is nicely landscaped, looking down over a river/fields and maintained by the crematorium with benches if you want a seat. I like having someone to visit now and again with some flowers on special dates (the crematorium tidy the flowers once they have withered).

When I die whoever is making the arrangement can do whatever they feel is best for them, I don't care either way.

Weirdly, my gravestone is already erected over my grave under a copper beech tree in my village churchyard. With a space on the stone to add my name and date of death.
It’s because my DH died at 36, and is already buried there - I acquired the right to be buried in the same plot with him.

Cremated. And sit on the shelf in my eldest daughters house 😂😂 (she has said she wants this)

My family have all been cremated, DH family have only ever been buried.

I would opt for cremation of my remains, as burial can cause a tie to a geographic area.

Friends of ours, lost a young child, they feel they can’t move or go on holiday as they feel they need to be close to their child’s final resting place, totally understandable but sad none the less, if a body is cremated there are many options for the loved ones ashes.

@Dinosaurcatcher

I want to be stuffed so I can stand in the corner of my daughters lounge and be decorated according to the season. For some reason she’s not too keen on this idea. Selfish madam

I thought I wanted to be cremated until I read this post. Taxidermy all the way

@PeskyRooks

Actually the lion's don't like eating comedians anyway. They taste funny.

Bravo!

Both options are disgusting, and I’ve thought about this long and hard. Being picked over by birds or by scientific means sound worse. I’ve elected for cremation in my funeral plan but I’ll let my family decide what to do with the ashes. My mother was cremated when I was 12, I had no say in it. She has a plot at the Cremitorium which is too far for me to visit now 😢

Neither. I've donated my body in advance to Birmingham university.

After five years they give the family the option of having it back and arranging cremtetion/burial or they will cremate.

But I have also said I would like my skeleton to be used by them.

I'd prefer burial so that I could have the option to have a lovely headstone erected. In the cremation plots you are often only allowed a tiny memorial stone which allows little space for expression.

I have always thought cremated. I thought about it the other day, and I did suddenly think that my ashes might become a burden to those left grieving, in a way that my body wouldn't if I was buried.

I've already told my children, donate whatever organs etc you can.

Then cremate what's left, as cheaply as possible, then chuck me wherever they want.

I've also told them I'm not to be kept alive if I have no quality of life, no point being alive just to dribble in a corner somewhere.

My father was cremated. My siblings and I got together and scattered his ashes in various places that he loved. I think I want the same when I go.

A woodland burial is my choice

Buried. Because I'm Jewish and we don't cremate.

Water cremation sounds good, I know I'll be dead but I as much as I'd like my bones to be discovered and maybe examined in many many years I don't much like the sound of lying alone in a box in the ground. And chances are I won't be an exciting discovery in hundreds of years, I'll most likely just decompose to nothing.

Neither am I enamoured with burning away at 1000s of degrees.

Some of my ashes can be made into a sparkly bit of jewellery. Some I'd like to be made into an impressive firework. Maybe some scattered at sea, some buried in a particular spot with a marker so people have somewhere to visit if they want. Basically spread myself around!

I don’t mind which. If I live to a ripe old age I expect most people will have to be cremated for space reasons.

Cremated. I don't want my rotting corpse eaten and crawled all over by worms and beasties.

Cremated and in the sea.
I don’t like the thought of people feeling they have to visit a grave and then in a few generations just being a forgotten head stone.

Cremated, I have a fear of waking up underground and a phobia of worms etc. I know the waking up part can’t happen but at least if I’m incinerated it won’t happen. Like a pp I like the idea of a Viking style cremation. Push me out to sea then shoot a flaming arrow at me!

Direct cremation, ds is an only one, I don't have any friends, I'd hate him to be sat there alone. I don't want to be kept alive if anything should happen to me, really should be making a living will with my wishes known. I don't want to be resuscitated or be on a ventilator. I'm a big supporter of the right to die campaign & should I get a terminal illness or dementia would want the right to die with dignity at a time of my choosing, not drag it out, one big dose of drugs & done.