Urgent catholic funeral question

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MIL's funeral this morning and DH has just asked if he's supposed to "tip" the priest. Does anyone know how much cash in an envelope? TIA.

Yes you should make an ‘offering’ to the priest. There isn’t a standard price- you can’t buy a Mass. Maybe ask the funeral director for advice? I’m not sure what would considered to be the going rate these days.

It’s not really tipping the priest as such I think, it’s a donation to the Church. It’s totally up to the family what they can afford, we are a large family and mum had been a parishioner for 60 years, we gave £100

Yes, payment is expected, but no idea how much

We gave £100. In normal times we also tipped the altar servers.

The funeral director is paying the priest for the service but it's more the donation he's asking about.

Thanks. We've put £100 in an envelope.

Follow on etiquette question. Should he give it to him before the chapel mass or after the crematorium service?

After the service would be fine. Sorry for your loss

Presumably mass is first? I would do it before mass if so x

I did it after the mass, just before we left for the graveyard. We didn't put anywhere near £100 in,it was £50. I'm sorry about you mil, I hope today is easy on you all.

The payment for the service is enough . If altar boys , maybe £5 or £10 each. But really the director should be taking care of all this. No body expects the family to be worrying about money , etc. Sorry about your MIL.

Sometimes, there's a memorial mass in a months time. Then if you want , it is acceptable to offer a small donation €20 or €50 depending on your funds.