Baby No.2

[FlyPiggy]

Evening All,

I'm 36 and had my first baby in June 2020.

DH and I both have siblings and we'd like for DS to have one too. Due to our age, we're thinking that it's best not to delay TTC.

However, I have a few concerns:

1. DS is such an easy baby! He's always slept well, never had colic or reflux, always happy (rarely cries), etc. We've been extremely lucky. I'm worried that the next one will be a nightmare in comparison 🙈 I appreciate there's no way of knowing until they're here as they are all different.

1. I can't imagine potentially looking after 2 under 2 🥴 I can imagine It'd be exhausting and all consuming but I know it doesn't last forever.

1. I had an emergency c-section with DS and am a little apprehensive about getting pregnant again so soon. I want to be sure that my scar has completely healed internally so that there is no risk of uterine rupture.

I'd be grateful to hear from anyone who has 2 kids with small age gaps and how you find/found it in terms of day to day. Happy to hear about the good, the bad and the ugly!

Also, if anyone has fallen pregnant quickly after having a c-section, how was it or you? Were you monitored more closely and did it cause any concerns/complications?

Thanks!

Hi

Similar position here.

I had Dd at 36 after years of losses and infertility. We were told it wouldn't happen then along she came.

I then fell March and had Dd2 two weeks ago at 38, dd1 is just 2.

1. Dd one was not an easy baby, Dd two is easier so far.

1. Correct. I am exhausted but early days and I'm sure someone more experienced can help us both with this....at the moment I'm juggling plates, badly.

1. I had a planned section with one. Was in a week as she had jaundice, could hardly walk when I got home. Planned section two, in 48 hours, home and hoovering. Two weeks on scar healed over and I'm like normal except for the tummy. Much, much easier and the human body is amazing. I had a big bleed at weekend and had to go back in but no scar issues.

With Dd one I was monitored weekly. Pandemic baby very different. Two scans alone a covid test then in. Midwife been once, I've yet to see a health visitor.

I'm finding two garde going, never stops, plus Christmas in among it all and now lockdown. No help at all. Just chaos. Amazing though. Tonnes of nappies, snacks and tears. Dd one very wary of baby at moment which is fine.

I have totally failed at BF though. I messed it up completely. BF week one, struggled to cope with hourly feeds and toddler, moved to mix feed, increased formula to fast and made myself very sore. Better balance this week.

Absolutely in awe of those that manage exclusive BF with a toddler climbing on them. I just couldn't cope.

Apologies for typos, one finger and a baby on arm.

Thanks @icedaisy and congratulations on your new arrival!

I was scheduled for a planned section too but DS has other ideas and my waters broke 5 days early. As much as it was classed as an emergency section, it was very relaxed, no rush or urgency and I healed extremely well. Managed with only paracetamol and ibuprofen afterwards. I'd definitely be looking for another section second time round.

I'm not sure I'd even attempt BF a second time (past the first 3 days). I had a hard time of it with DS due to supply issues and cracked nipples 🥴

The other concern is the pregnancy itself. Although I didn't have any complications, I was extremely nauseous 24/7 for the first 17 weeks and it was a killer! Did you find your second pregnancy was different from your first? I know it's a lottery but it really puts me off. It was bad enough when I could lie on the sofa and feel sorry for myself but the thought of being so ill whilst caring for DS seems impossible.

I'm sort of in the same boat. DD born by emergency section on September 6th 2020. I'm 40 in March (I was 38 when she was conceived), and we are keen for at least one more.

Just hopping onto the thread in the hope for some advice about TTC quite soon after a section. My period hasn't come back yet and I'm EBF.

I wont lie, it's not easy.
25 months between my 2, DD is now 3 months. DS is mental,.doesnt sit still, never occupied for long etc. Both had reflux/colic.DD still suffering. I'm EBF.

Some days it's fine. Some days it's a shit show.
BUT - I dont enjoy the baby phase. Didnt first time round, dont this time.round. As far as I'm concerned every day done is another day closer to.being free of newborn cries, naps and nappies. If I had left conceiving I can well imagine deciding against it.

Same BF issues here. Hurts more than bloody section did.

Pregnancy was same. Friend has bad sickness and said was same second time but more of a focus to keep going as toddler distraction. Hard though.

I was probably fitter this time, just due to chasing toddler and lockdown walking. That must have helped.

Just hard being mum to toddler when I've been up all night. Dh calving just now so I'm fairly alone

My oldest turned two a week ago and I have a five month old.
I love it, but it is all- consuming.
Both are at home with me full time and the baby is ebf. I don't get much downtime!
Luckily my husband is very, very involved, otherwise I couldn't manage.
The oldest one doesn't remember a time before his sister was born. They'll also (hopefully)grow up very close and potentially have the same big circle of friends. It can only get more manageable.

I would actually start TTC number three, however I am 43 and my husband wants to stop at two.