Erectile dysfunction problems

[Lovedbyascotsman]

My partner has erectile dysfunction caused by diabetes 2, drinking far too much and being overweight. He says he’s depressed and upset about this. I’ve tried to help by encouraging him to eat healthier, drink less (much less) and talking to his gp.
He makes half hearted attempts but never sees anything through.
Ive told him I don’t care so much about the sex but I really miss the intimacy, the cuddles and kisses. He now won’t even let me see him naked and we’re sleeping apart. We’ve only been together three years.
I’m feeling unloved and undesirable. Can this relationship survive?

Oh bless you thats hard, touch releases oxytocin in women and helps us bond...can you find ways of relaxing together in the same bedroom for starters, and do a slowly slowly approach? Watch movies, drink coffee And viagra? Just skin to skin stuff? How does he feel about it? As in all relationships communication and forgiveness ( not a popular word) .. ..

I’ve suggested getting naked in bed just for a kiss and cuddle. I’ve told him intimacy doesn’t have to be sex, but touching and being close. He just doesn’t seem to want to try anything. I’m sure he loves me, but he keeps saying well we’re older now and that’s what happens.
I don’t know whether to keep trying, accept there’s no intimacy or just end the relationship.
Help!!

I would be ending this relationship. It's doomed to fail.

I know you’re probably right, but it’s so difficult when we love each other.

How much does he live you if he's unwilling to deal with his problems? You sleep apart, he has a serious drinking problem, he's obese, there is absolutely no intimacy, and can't have sex, yet he does nothing to fix this. That's love? I don't think so. He doesn't seem to care about your needs and feelings at all.