Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Some start to our day today, heart still pounding.

14 replies

AudTheDeepAndCrispAndEven · 03/01/2021 18:53

I'm only posting about this on here because it doesn't feel right to 'gossip' about it in real life. We (3DC and DH and I) were in the car today on our way to some fresh air and a walk. We pulled off the duel carriageway into a garage to get some fuel. On the verge by the slipway was a young woman on the phone and a bloke stood with her. I remarked upon it to DH to the effect that I thought something was up, he did not. He filled up and went to pay and then came back looking worried. Lass was intent on throwing herself into traffic. Police had been called and were on way. She made several attempts and bloke was blocking her. DH went to help and then me and a few others all stood along the side of the main rd across the slipway (employee had put cones across by now) blocking her path to the road. It was fucking scary shit, she was so distressed.
The kids were in the car by one of the pumps and were watching out the window (I told them not to!) and I know it sounds odd but I was most worried about what they might see. Anyhoo the police turned up and surrounded her then we returned to the car and left. I can't stop thinking about it, I really hope she has got some help and not just been sent home with a promise that the Crisis team will be in touch. Not sure what I want people to say about it, just felt the need to get it off my chest. Not what I was expecting when we got up this morning.

OP posts:
ArseWipesLemonade · 03/01/2021 19:16

Did the first bloke know her or was he just helping? Well done for going to her aid, so many people just turn a blind eye to things like that.

Gilead · 03/01/2021 19:23

Thank you for helping. If she’s made a significant and public attempt, which she obviously has, she will be in hospital.

AudTheDeepAndCrispAndEven · 03/01/2021 19:43

I think bloke was 'with' her. Initially he asked DH to keep back but when she started more determined runs at the road was grateful for more help.
I think we only did what anyone should do. Initially we sat there for a bit thinking shall we go, especially as kids were with us, but then DH got back out the car as she got more agitated and determined and then I looped around her to stand at the far end of the slip to fill a gap to the road and a couple of other people also got out of their cars and helped 'cordon' her along the side facing the road. Weird to think we were all strangers and will never know the outcome. Praying she gets better, to feel that low is dreadful for her and her loved ones.

OP posts:
bearlyactive · 03/01/2021 20:16

You all made a difference OP, well done and thank you.

PragmaticWench · 03/01/2021 20:20

It's humanity in action, you didn't know her but you helped to keep a stranger safe when she wasn't in a good place.

Sometimes the strangest things happen suddenly, and after you think 'what?!'

AudTheDeepAndCrispAndEven · 03/01/2021 20:28

I don't need thanks, we were acting on instinct. It's quite close to home as I have been in a similar state many years ago with PND. Yeesh, what a day. Having a gin now, fuck dry january!

OP posts:
BrummyMum1 · 03/01/2021 20:48

Your own MH problems probably gave you and your DH the confidence to help. Well done. My own experience is that most people just stare or walk by.

Toocold · 03/01/2021 20:53

Well done to both of you, your kids will look back and be proud of you both.

bloodyhairy · 03/01/2021 22:02

Those poor kids Sad

AudTheDeepAndCrispAndEven · 03/01/2021 22:09

@bloodyhairy we've spoken about what happened a lot with them today. They had a LOT of questions. We've been honest with them and they know that the lady was feeling very very sad and wanted to harm herself. They also know that she is now safe and being looked after. My five year old actually said 'Right, I'm getting out the car to help her' just before my DH got actively involved, I was very proud that he felt that way and that they know their parents cared and didn't just ignore what was happening.
They've all gone to bed very settled. I'm going to message their teachers with what has happened so that they are aware if their are any issues this week.

OP posts:
AudTheDeepAndCrispAndEven · 03/01/2021 22:10

@bloodyhairy the kids were mine, not hers in case you are confused!

OP posts:
bloodyhairy · 03/01/2021 22:48

So sorry, OP! I thought the kids were hers, and they were witnessing their mum trying to run into traffic.
My mistake, so apologies again Thanks x
Well-done by the way! Star

AudTheDeepAndCrispAndEven · 04/01/2021 13:36

@bloodyhairy no worries, I was concerned that you were concerned. They're all fine this morning, told Grandma alllllll about it. I, however, was up between 2.30am and about 5 thinking it over. Early bed tonight.

OP posts:
Nonamesavail · 04/01/2021 13:50

I've been in a distressed position before and I have a close friend jump off a motorway bridge so I think you for helping x

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread