What’s expected of me to be maid of honour?

[Beachybeach]

My best friend is getting married this summer (fingers crossed).

Unfortunately we now live opposite sides of the country. I haven’t seen her for over a year but check in probably once a month to see how the plans/life is coming along.

Dress shopping has gone on hold as no shops local to her have been open for a couple of months. I’ve told her once they’re open I’ll travel to her for us to shop.

I need to organise the hen-do but I’m waiting for some idea about restrictions first - she knows this.

My other friend said I need to be ‘more involved’ and I should be a right hand woman. I’m not particularly girly, we live opposite sides of the country and I’ve got a list of responsibilities to do at the wedding. What else should I be doing?

Does your other friend think she should have been MOH by any chance? Sounds like you have the main things nailed. Have a planning session with the bride to be and ask her for a list of things she'd like you to do.

I'd ask the bride what she would like you to take care of, and maybe include the other bridesmaid a little bit so she doesn't feel too left out. (Unless she's the type to try to take over, that is!) I'd say the main thing is to avoid doing anything too obviously awful that will make the bride rant about you on here!! No pressure!

When I got married I expected my moh to help me find a dress, turn up on the day and look pretty, I didn’t expect anything else from her.

Though I’m pretty laid back.

MAybe ask the bride what she expects you to do.

Forgot to say I hope it all goes well!

I suggested the alternate colour for cake trimmings, mens ties but only because she was stuck and it matched my dress. I also designed and made the cake topper. I organised one of the hen dos but it was quite low key. I made a something blue etc box for the day with contributions from everyone including her mum. I stayed with her all morning to get ready and helped her with anything she wanted. So nothing too overwhelming

I've only done it once, and only had one bridesmaid and both times all that was required was having a bridesmaid dress chosen and fitted, buying shoes and doing hair and make-up together in the morning. So it can be very little. But you need to ask the bride really.