Children's right to privacy

[DownstairsMixUp]

Morning everyone,

Just a general discussion but something I see more and more of online. I've just been watching a series on Tik tok of a 26 year old who was the child of a mummy blogger. She's raising awareness on there and hoping to change parents broadcasting their children's lives as she says it has damaged her and the relationship she has with her mother.

My question is, why is there nothing stricter on protecting a child's right to a private life? So many celebrities and influencers put their child's face in full view on social media to millions of followers, broadcasting everything from bath time to milestones... am I the only one that finds it odd? I'd hate to have got to my age and scroll back and see my whole childhood online with strangers commenting on me.

Does it make anyone else really uncomfortable that this just seems to be accepted? Just because we bring a child in the world, do we own the rights to their privacy and dignity?

Photos of kids in school uniforms, logo clearly visible on open pages that also talk about ages, birthdays etc. Its a nightmare. I think one of those links was from a Barclays thing specifically about security online.

People trying to sell MLM products (unique, forever living etc) are a nightmare. They are told they have to sell a lifestyle, and basically act like mini influencers (though most aren't making money). They always have fully open profiles and share far too much about their children.

I am not comfortable with this, even though no school age children. Not the only example of something that should be changed or limited to consider the welfare of children.

We have analogue laws in a digital age in my opinion.

The mummy bloggers child is now 26? So talking about blogging around 15 years ago? Very different back then, quieter than now.

What does the blogger do now that the kids are grown? Who was it?

I've seen faaaar too much of some kids online, one little girl naked, ill and on the toilet springs to mind

Just thinking of this thread again. Ferne McCann posted something on Instagram mentioning her 3 year old kid spending the day with no knickers on. What possible justification could there be for telling the world and all it's perverts that??

It was the straw that broke the camel's back for me and I've unfollowed her

@DownstairsMixUp

Appears that tiktoker has her own business now

I imagine her popularity on tiktok is due to the fact her mum is was a blogger so seems a bit hypocritical to me. Complaining on her social media that she was exposed to social media

Accounts like Hurrah for gin also make me uncomfortable. How would you feel as a teenager to find your mum did almost daily cartoons about she can’t wait until your back to school and your such hard work gin is needed. I don’t find ‘relatable’ but constant negative parent stuff nice when you think those children are going to read it one day

I hate it with a passion, there a are few of these parents in my DCs school, one mother photographs her DD asleep, having a bath, eating, going to school, you name it she does it, she's also on Tik Tok singing songs she hasn't a clue what the words mean (she's 7) it makes me feel sick to be honest.

Why do 'normal' parents do it? Money? Fame? Desperately wanting their child to be a star? I just don't understand it at all.

@Teddy1970

Why do 'normal' parents do it? Money? Fame? Desperately wanting their child to be a star? I just don't understand it at all.

Based on something I was watching recently, probably the dopamine hit from getting likes and comments. And apparently the more you get used to dopamine the more activities that used to engage you become 'boring' ie: you might stop reading books because that does not have an immediate reward and is less satisfying than a quick hit from social media interaction. I imagine that on social media, you start off being happy getting a few likes and comments but as time goes on you want more and more interaction. Or something along those lines (psychology and brain biology is not my subject but I have got interested in it because I have noticed my own ability to be engaged by 'slow' activities without an immediate reward decreasing).

I'm always a little uncomfortable with people using their kids to earn money, I get that there is a market for reviews and I know I personally do look for reviews from trustworthy bloggers when shopping for items, so I think it can be a good thing. But I do think there's a way to do it, I prefer ones where they use a nickname for the kid(s) and either don't use photos of the child, or just show the kids hands playing with toys (eg. Cropping faces out). Gives the child a chance at anonymity.

I imagine that on social media, you start off being happy getting a few likes and comments but as time goes on you want more and more interaction.

Definitely plays a part. I used to have a quiet little instagram account, then it started to get more attention, ending up with 8000+ followers at that point, and I was finding I was rushing to add more content more frequently for that excitement - I remember being disappointed an illustration only got 100 likes.

It wasn't doing me any good, so ended up dialling it right back. I've still got the account, quite a few followers have gone over time, especially as now I only post occasionally. Have had to teach myself not to chase the likes

I often think about this and I'm sure if the 'celebs' in question were asked. The money is providing a better future for their children. The 'throughandlou' tiktoker I can't say I have much sympathy for when she's using social media to complain. Very hypocritical imo.

I agree. I'm just playing devils advocate.

Have a look at what the sacconejolys are currently filling their YouTube content with.

I totally agree that there will be future consequences for these people. It astonishes me the amount of insta and social media bloggers who make a living out of sharing their entire lives. There are people out there who film everything and document every minor detail of their lives including children and partners. The inside of their homes, their children's emotions and struggles are filmed and broadcasted to the whole world. These poor kids can't do anything without the whole world knowing. They have no privacy.

That's intresting terrywynne and also quite sad.