When is the cut off to settle?

[Allhailthesun]

Is there one?
I see people marrying in retirement homes and I’m thinking that it probably wasn’t the person they had been dreaming off all their lives. It’s just Mr Right for Right now.
So if you meet someone good enough do you go for it or content yourself to be happy single until you really fancy ( bearing in mind your standards have gone up but people generally decline with age and you haven’t found someone already).

Sorry “ until you meet someone you really fancy”!

I just think it’s probably a bit unlikely after 55 but willing to be corrected by those that have gone before.

I find the whole concept of "settling" quite strange and unhelpful. When I've encountered it it usually either means that someone is considering entering a relationship with someone utterly wrong for them, which is bound to end badly, or it means that deep down they're expecting to meet someone pretty much perfect, while conveniently glossing over the fact that they're not perfect themselves.

I wouldn't enter a relationship with someone I didn't love and share the same fundamental vision of life with, no. I don't think that age is any obstacle to doing this, but it might require a bit more acknowledgement from both partners of the need to be flexible and compromise in certain non-essential areas, if you have got a bit set in your ways.

Actually I think I agree with you.

I have a friend who has never met anyone that close to being the one. I mean she has had a few 5 -8 year ish relationships but none have even been in consideration for a potential life partner.

I just think it’s probably not going to happen the wrong side of 50? Or maybe once having children isn’t the driving force it may?
No one seems to say though.

Surely if someone marries in a retirement home it is the absolute opposite of settling? What is there to marry for at that age, if not love?
I imagine one would settle so they could set up a home, have children etc which might not be possible on their own.

The retirement home offers nothing. The relationship us purely here and now. Is that love?

Settling is giving up the “ideal” for other things one requires; children, money, stability. You actually can gave all of those things on your own. Hence the question.

"Settling" pre-supposes there's such a thing as "the one". There is no such animal.