10 year old daughter

[Ollylily1]

Hi I'm hoping someone can give some advice, when checking my daughters phone, there is a message to her friend saying she has something to tell them, but it must stay a secret, that she is bisexual, has anyone dealt with this situation before?

I haven’t experienced similar op.

However I’m not sure there is anything for you to deal with. Except to keep offering your daughter love and affection and letting her know your love for her is unconditional.

Does she know you look at her phone or will she be unaware you might see her message?

My dd is 10 in a few months and has told me that she likes girls. I think it is a normal developmental stage to question sexuality at prepubescent/puberty. I can remember saying the same thing to my mother at a similar age. I don’t question it or react in any way when she says stuff like that I just tell her “that’s fine sweetie”. Whether she is or isn’t gay doesn’t really matter in the long run, what matters is that she feels able to communicate with me about how she feels.

Maybe plan a luxury day, face masks, treats favourite food etc and encourage her to talk and see if she tells you herself.

At my daughters school (year 9) apparently it's fashionable to be bi or pan

I would treat it quite lightly.

My ten year old son (who admittedly is young for his years) thinks all references to kissing, romance or sex are ‘disgusting’ and wants to live with his best (male) friend when he grows up so they can play computer games. He’d probably say he was gay to avoid having anything to do with girls!

Whilst some children clearly are aware of their orientation very early, I think for most, words like gay/bi/pan get bandied about without much appreciation of what they mean.