Do you find that spending time on Mumsnet leaves you feeling quite negative?

[SouthDownsLass]

I've realised that I need to ration any time that I spend on here, and not come on here when I'm feeling a bit low anyway.

It's a mixture of LTB, "all Brexiters are racists", and constant "this country is shit". Gets me down.

It is a bit like that, isn't it?

The sheer number of topics and boards I've got hidden...

It's been good for thickening my skin when it comes to conflict, but the pile-ons and moral judgements can hurt pretty bad when I'm in a vulnerable state tbh. I need to know when to walk away.

Also I have this saviour complex thing of wanting to defend a social "underdog" and that usually ends poorly

YANBU

Definitely. People are getting really quite nasty at times.

Love MN for the outweighing good it brings, but there are some really snotty attitudes on here at time. I think it's quite often toxic.

It’s fine as long as you avoid the coronavirus and Brexit boards

Sadly, yes, there’s some real nastiness and it seems to be getting worse
There are some bloody lovely people too though

I really need to pick what I read. I stick to the neutral subjects that interest me and stay well away from anything to do with things like coronavirus. Reading those makes my blood boil and I'm best not going there.

Yes but it's not real life is it? Peoples attitudes on here dont reflect in. My real life.

I live in leafy rural quite nice area. But people wear masks, dont scream at people, parents wants their kids educated.

I'm from a poor deprived town. I go home and see the same thing. People wearing masks, hoping their kids get a education to escape the poverty.

But on MN it's all rule breakers, people breaking the rules, mothballing education, teachers who hate their jobs etc.

It's like a soap opera times. I dont know where the majority of MN lives but it not reflective of a 100 miles circumference of me that's for sure.

I think you can get a distilled version instant of what's going on with pandemic on here. But what the very vocal people shout about they arent being vocal in real life.

MN is weird.
Especially when a Poster is telling a long Jackanoray (40page) story and along come to the cheerleaders lapping it up.

Depends on what threads I look at.

It is my new year resolution to avoid negativity .

There's a lot of nasty posters on here. If you dare to express an opinion that is different to theirs then they will put you down, ridicule you or be blatently nasty. Some posters are naturally more articulate and think they can use that to ridicule others. It can be a horrible forum. Some sections however are so supportive, mental health, bereavement etc.

It can be. It really depends on the active threads that day. I tend to think people who think mn is nasty have never been on twitter!

It’s fine as long as you avoid the coronavirus and Brexit boards

I would also include AIBU in that list!

It's just a site with a ton of presumptuous people - e.g. if you don't know someone's age you'll respond to their opinion, but if you know they're young then you'll call them "naive", "inexperienced", "childish" for having aforementioned opinion.

(Just as an example as I was reading a thread like this recently).
People are often vipers on here.

To be honest, mumsnet often leaves me feeling rather fortunate, particularly the relationships board. My biggest issue with my husband is that sometimes he forgets to text when he's leaving the pub, and he once gave our DD beans of toast 3 nights in a row without thinking about it.

There are more and more threads that I scroll past - particularly those that seem to hate everything about the UK and Brexit threads.

However, some of the intelligent Covid information is very helpful and there are still plenty of threads where people are kind and helpful to each other. There's not as much fun stuff but that's pretty much the same in real life too for most people right now.

Yes. Think it's bad for my mental health but quite addictive! The thing is, the majority of posters (at least on the 'front' page) have some kind of problem or dilemma. There's the odd thread celebrating a small victory or asking for fun recommendations, and I love those, but mostly it's people who need advice over issues big and small. So it does skew your attitude. (I find myself crafting threads in my head all the time, I have to give it up!)

I hid aibu because all the threads on their tended to affect me more than any other topic. I did have a huge dip with my mh at one point so came off for about 6 months.

Wow, thanks everyone! I had actually been dreading coming back to this thread, but steeled myself this morning.

I will block a few boards, it hadn't occurred to me to do that

As I do like to be able to help out every now and again.

Have a good day!

Yes, but have always felt like that and have been coming here for nearly ten years. And yet I still do. Gah.

It makes me want to eat my dogs to prove I love my child more than them.

It also makes my worry someone will start shaking and crying because sometimes they look at children in the park.

@Ohalrightthen

To be honest, mumsnet often leaves me feeling rather fortunate, particularly the relationships board. My biggest issue with my husband is that sometimes he forgets to text when he's leaving the pub, and he once gave our DD beans of toast 3 nights in a row without thinking about it.

Bless him

@StrictlyAFemaleFemale

It can be. It really depends on the active threads that day. I tend to think people who think mn is nasty have never been on twitter!

I wouldn't call MN "nasty", but it can get me down.

I actually gave Twitter up completely last year, having been spending a lot of time on there - best thing I did for my mental health!

I have the same, I come off thinking ‘blimes my husband is lovely’. I can’t quite go as far as to call him my dh!!