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FB deactivated accounts

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BathFullOfEels · 31/12/2020 22:59

Does anyone know anything about these?

My exh either deactivated or deleted his account a couple of years ago while we were still married. He used to use it a fair bit but suddenly decided he didn’t want to anymore which I thought was a bit odd. We were having a rough patch which led to us splitting about a year ago and I’ve never really thought about it since.

However, in the last few months he’s mentioned a few things to me that he’d only know if he’d been able to see my FB page. I’ve got privacy setting on, only have a few friends and family on there and definitely have no mutual friends that would show/ tell him what I’ve posted on FB. It’s not particularly private information or anything I wouldn’t have told him if he’d asked but it’s just annoying me how he knows.

If I search his name he doesn’t come up so I can’t block him. Could he have deactivated his account and then occasionally be reactivating it so he can look at my page? I never deleted him as a friend so I’m assuming if he reactivated it would just automatically have me as a friend still?

Does anyone know if this is possible? If it is, is there a way of blocking him while his account is deactivated?

Sorry if I’m not being clear, I just can’t think how else he’d have this information.

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Tellmelies65 · 31/12/2020 23:03

Yes it’s possible on my Facebook these an option to unfriend deactivated accounts.

vanillandhoney · 31/12/2020 23:08

My Facebook has always had the option to unfriend deactivated accounts.

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BathFullOfEels · 31/12/2020 23:11

Thank you.

I’ve had a google and it looks like I need to search for him in my friends list and unfriend him that way. He doesn’t come up in my friend list though so maybe that means he’s actually deleted his account rather than just deactivated. If that’s the case I have absolutely no idea where he’s found out some of the things he’s mentioned. Really weird.

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thefourgp · 31/12/2020 23:13

What an asshole for spying on you like that

Theunamedcat · 31/12/2020 23:16

Yes my ex did it he had one deactivated account he used it to pop on and trawl through my profile it was only because a friend of ours said he had loads of profiles and one he kept popping on and off with and it was annoying him it was only then I realised what happened

Ginger1982 · 31/12/2020 23:17

Could he be using a weird/different username?

PeachesBright · 31/12/2020 23:17

Could he have gotten the info from one of your active FB friends?

WouldstrokeTomHardy · 31/12/2020 23:20

Or someone in your friends list is his nark.

AliceMcK · 31/12/2020 23:22

He can activate his account anytime but I’m fairly certain it will not show in your list when it’s not activated.

Could he have your login details? We’re they saved on an old device he has access to?

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BathFullOfEels · 31/12/2020 23:25

There’s no way he’d have my login details and very sure that there’s no one that I’ve got as a friend who would either let him access their account or show/ tell him what I post on there. I don’t have anyone that I don’t know we’ll as a friend so he can’t be using as alias.

It’s really annoying. One of the reasons we split was because he was obsessed with trying to find out what I was doing all the time. He installed a ring doorbell which he said was for security but I know was just so he could keep track of me. I thought he’d stopped all this by now.

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PerfidiousAlbion · 31/12/2020 23:29

Given your last up-date, I'd suspect he's installed spyware on your laptop/phone.

What was the nature of the information he found out?

Theunamedcat · 01/01/2021 06:04

Go to Facebook sign out of all other devices change your password then scroll through your fronds list deactivated accounts should show lighter and can be unfriended check all your friends names he could have changed his names

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BathFullOfEels · 01/01/2021 09:57

Ah! I’ve checked through all my friends accounts again and there’s a double of my friend! There profile pictures and backgrounds are identical but one has all her details and the other is completely blank. What a sneaky bastard!

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Theunamedcat · 01/01/2021 10:58

@BathFullOfEels

Ah! I’ve checked through all my friends accounts again and there’s a double of my friend! There profile pictures and backgrounds are identical but one has all her details and the other is completely blank. What a sneaky bastard!
Block and delete
Sarahandduck18 · 01/01/2021 11:01

Sounds like he’s blocked you but occasionally unblocks you to peek at your account without you noticing.

Go through your messenger to find him and block him that way.

80sColourfulChristmas · 01/01/2021 11:10

Go into your settings and make sure you're not searchable using Facebook or from a search engine. There is an option to disable this. Then no matter how much he searches, he won't find you

80sColourfulChristmas · 01/01/2021 11:15

@BathFullOfEels

Ah! I’ve checked through all my friends accounts again and there’s a double of my friend! There profile pictures and backgrounds are identical but one has all her details and the other is completely blank. What a sneaky bastard!
Sneaky bastard indeed!!!

Are you going to confront him about it? I bloody would!

HmmSureJan · 01/01/2021 11:21

@BathFullOfEels

Ah! I’ve checked through all my friends accounts again and there’s a double of my friend! There profile pictures and backgrounds are identical but one has all her details and the other is completely blank. What a sneaky bastard!
Sorry, i don't quite understand. So he's created a profile using your friend's photos and content to spy on you? That is obsessive indeed!
IveNameChangedAgain2020 · 01/01/2021 11:24

Hold on OP. He may have created a different account and just looking at your closed profile. There is still a lot of info available to non-friends if you haven't locked it down properly. Don't assume the duplicate friend account is him - ask your friend as it's also likely she's got more than one account (many of my friends do for different - totally legitimate- reasons). Tbh I wouldn't let him know you know as he'll think you give a shit.

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BathFullOfEels · 01/01/2021 12:33

I think he deactivated his account, changed all the details to look like a friend of mine so I wouldn’t notice, then reactivated it. I’ve blocked it now so hopefully that will be the end of it.

It’s not worth confronting him about it. He’d only deny it and try and make it sound like I’m crazy

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BathFullOfEels · 01/01/2021 12:34

ivenamechanged there’s definitely not the information available that he had unless he was my friend. If you’re not my friend the only info you can see on my account is my name, profile pic and background pic.

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