Sense of impeding doom

[LillyBottom]

I was coping okay but that’s all changed today.
Daughter in primary and is starting on the 4th- not sure will send her. Don’t have the strength to decide
We are in T4- I’m convinced we will get it this time around from school. We don’t go out anywhere except for walks. No shops etc. Working from home
Don’t have family in the UK or any friends/support - I’m terrified of both of us being ill and no one to take care of daughter

In the rare case that we both end up in the hospital will my daughter be placed in temporary care?

I’m terrified of passing away in the hospital without being able to see her one last time

are you at risk in any way e.g. obesity, diabetes, health condition? Sounds tough OP. If not maybe some anxiety therapy might help.

No - I’m 39 well will be 40 in a few months. No known underlying issues. I’m around 6/7 stone- size 6

Husband - asthmatic no other known issues. 47, slim
But we are BAME - likely low level vit d

Then you can take the steps you are able - take high strength vitamin D supplements. Stay healthy if you can. Speak to your GP about the risk.

Taking supplements but understand it’ll take a while to build up
I’m on cbt although not sure helping

Cannot shake this feeling of not having much time left

you have the right to pull your child from school if you're worried. what about pulling your child out for a week or two citing a cough (even if that's not the case)? who is going to question you at this point? wait to see how it pans out? maybe in a couple of weeks the situation will have changed a bit. you might have more clarity. don't drive yourself batty. be kind to yourself.

Yes definitely not planning to send her the first week, which is just 3 days as they start in the 6th
If things are the same, then might it send the second week as well.

My DH and I both caught it from our son who got it at school. I was worried how we would cope but it was just like a cold with added fatigue. Make sure you take high strength vit d and eat healthily to increase your immunity.

My friends both ended up in hospital simultaneously - the children were looked after in a mix of family and friends for 2 weeks.

Being blunt, please stop catastrophizing. It will not do anything to change what’s happening and you will pass on the feeling to your child. Do what you can do to amend YOUR situation. Occupy yourself, turn off the TV, stay off or limit social media. I say this as someone who is Covid positive.

@PotteringAlong that’s exactly the problem. I don’t have family or friends - I mentioned this as one of the issues in my op

@BananaPop2020 hope you feel better soon. I don’t watch tv/don’t seek out Covid info in social media etc. But my job entails daily briefing if Covid cases and rising pressure in hospitals..I cannot really escape that

I understand, but be assured that even IF you do get it, it is extremely likely to be an unpleasant inconvenience and little more.

I don’t have family or friends

On risk of death, this fact statistically increases your risk of hospitalisation more than covid, but neither of them increase your risk of death very much because your risk of death is so extremely low. You didn't mention exercise either in your original thread, not doing anything more than walking will increase your risk again more than covid or isolation, but again it's extremely unlikely.

Keeping your child off school might be sensible, catastrophizing something which is extremely unlikely to be the slightest bit relevant to you however will likely cause more harm than anything you could do now.

@LillyBottom then yes, social services will take them into care if needed, just as they would if you were both hospitalised in a car crash etc.

If you’ve got no family and friends in the U.K. at all you must have thought about what happens in the worst case scenario, even before Covid. Although I appreciate that, depending where in the world they were coming from, flying in an emergency right now is not as simple.

@PotteringAlong back up was that my mom or sister dan fly in and take her back with them if need be. Which is not an option any longer as the airport is closed where they reside.

She would be looked after. She would be looked after by a kind and caring family/ person (I was a foster carer and know many foster carers). She would be able to speak to you on the phone in the hospital. (If it makes you feel better write a list of routine / favourite foods etc that you would want someone to know).

This won’t happen or be needed. The chances of you both catching it and both being in hospital are minuscule (let alone of you dying). But maybe it’s helpful to know that even in worst case scenario she’d be ok.

I really hope this helps calm your anxiety - if not please ignore me!

Thank you @DragonflyInn

I’ll make a list. I’ve always got my phone fully charged and a small power pack ready incase I end up in the hospital- atleast will give me a chance to speak to her if I’m able to