What would you change in your life if you could?

[Iwonder777]

For me, I'd have had a more secure childhood. Would have set me up better for adulthood in an ideal world . You?

I would like a less dysfunctional family. On the surface, my childhood looked fine, but it wasn’t until I was an adult with my own children that I realised it was pretty fucking odd. I sadly have no relationship with any of my (biological) family, except of course my dc. I have a lovely happy marriage and family life and everything else is good. But my family is just a weird dysfunctional nightmare and it would be nice to have normal adult relationships with them and have some sort of connection to where I came from.

I completely agree mind x

I would not be living through a pandemic

More financial security. I’m not looking to be mega rich or even well off. Would like to have a bit more of the mortgage paid and/or a bigger saving pot. This is linked to wanting to feel secure though as we had massive issues with financial insecurity as I grew up (bailiffs coming to house/running out of food etc).

Yes same as you OP. A more secure childhood, including better relationships with my parents and siblings, would have definitely made a difference to my life as an adult.
A lot of poor decisions I have made were due to insecurity and low self esteem.

I wish I’d made better career decisions. I’m almost 30 and feel like I haven’t really achieved anything career-wise since leaving uni. My job is stress-free but unfulfilling.

My new year’s resolution is to find a better job.

I'd not have any health issues.

For me and DH (mainly DH) to work less and have a better work/life balance. Hopefully this will be possible in the future but our careers right now are quite all or nothing

I would like a boyfriend.

That my parents had lived long enough to meet their grandchildren.

To have ditched my abusive Ex sooner.

To have persevered with learning to drive in my early 20s rather than finally passing my test in my 40s, would have made my life significantly easier over the years.

To lose 1.5st and keep it off. Minor really.
All those of you having insecure childhoods, can I ask what sort of things? I worry about making my own children insecure so would like to know

To of never gotten together with my abusive ex.
For my grandparents to still be around.

I would like people to see me.

I’m not invisible and could block out the sun on a bad day. But no one sees me. Not really.

I’d change the bit around my A levels and Uni-I made some very poor choices. I’d like to be able to undo that period.
The rest has mercifully been good but I do have some regrets around that period. Obviously it would change the rest too so it may not have made life better overall.

Aged 42 I still have regular anxiety dreams around that period so it seems to bother my brain 24 years on.

I guess in terms of a more secure childhood, I would have liked a more secure home setting with stable, attentive parents.

Hard to pinpoint one.
I'd say the biggest ones are:

1. Ability to have kids now because DH and I would be financially solvent
2. Improved childhood and subsequent self esteem ( / mental health issues)
3. An aspiration for a career

My late DH would still be here. As that's impossible, I would like to meet someone who loves me as much and makes me feel the same way, even if he is different to my DH.

Better school-related decisions. Weird GCSE choices, much better A levels, then a crazy degree choice.

Me too, peachgreen. My DH has been gone a long time now but to have him back would be heavenly. He was my best person in the world.

Barring that, I'd love decent health and an end to my chronic pain.

Where I live would love to live in a village near the large town I currently live in but can’t afford to

@Megan2018 you said it better than me!

For Dd1 to have met Dd2.

I wish I had made more of my education and had a career.
I wish I didn't suffer with depression and an inferiority complex.

No more coronavirus

I wish my DF hadn't had (probable, undiagnosed) ASD. In my 50s I'm still unpicking the impact this had on my choices, sense of identity and ability to relate to the opposite sex.

I'd also wish myself without the chronic health condition that gave me infertility and several stays in hospital. I quite often wonder if my life would have been the same but nicer or radically different without it.