What to do in this situation? Child contact and clothes.

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This may seem like a really minor gripe but its getting annoying and expensive.

My dds go to their dads every 2 weeks overnight, 2 days, 1 night, so 2, 4 days nights a month.

I send them in age appropriate, weather appropriate clothes, and he sends them back with a too small top and tights, or just a tshirt and trousers, ripped or too small underwear and socks.

I spent a couple of hundred pounds on new clothes for the winter and now they have hardly any thick trousers or jumpers or cardigans left here because he keeps all their cosy new stuff and sends them back in utter shit.

I've messaged him multiple times about this and spoken to him about it, and he says the right things but nothing changes.

I'm so upset that I've spent a fortune on clothes that he is keeping at his even though he hardly has them at all and I'm, once again, struggling to find them decent clothes at my house.

I'm currently off work on sick pay as well so things are really tight as it is, and, to save on public transport at the moment I've taken on the drop offs and pick ups as well, which is an hour round trip, which he said he will contribute to, but never does.

I don't think there's anything I can do, apart from have a rant on here about it and be frustrated.

Just wondered if anyone else had this problem and what they did about it.

I could honestly cry that I spent so much on lovely new things that they hardly have the benefit of now.

Second buying a black bag of second hand items perhaps a size or so on the big side off fb and put them in those to go on contact. As long as they are in clean clothes there’s nothing he can say really especially if you are footing all the costs of transport to/from contact. Hopefully he won’t be as keen on keeping these items but even if he does at least you will keep the costs of the lost clothes to a minimum and you can keep the nicer/newer items at yours.