Would it be odd to buy these now?

[DuzzyFuck]

DP and I have been TTC casually for the latter half of this year, and for the New Year we plan to start taking it a bit more seriously. We are in our late 30s so nothing is guaranteed.

I've been browsing the sales online this morning and found a beautiful soft unisex baby blanket and matching toy; more than I'd ever spend full price but ok in the sale. Would it be really silly to buy them now as a little symbol of hope for our future, or is it crazy and a jinx? I really can't decide!!

(I might add that years ago I fell in love with some little soft Dumbo slippers that were next to nothing in a sale. Not planning on kids at that point in time I didn't buy them, but I still think about them from time to time and wish I had! )

I had a bottom drawer when I was growing up to put things in for my adulthood/marriage/children.

It’s a good idea as long as you don’t buy too excess.

I would say go for it, but maybe don’t get carried away and start searching for other things and buying more at this stage.

I’m very intrigued by this lovely sounding blanket and toy, would you mind posting a link?!

I wish you the very best for TTC.

Don’t do it.

I wouldn't and haven't. We started ttc when I was 34 and I'm 37 now and 4 losses later. I'd find it really hard to have those kind of items in the house, not knowing if or when they would be used.

I know a few people who buy faith purchases, one couple have also had 4 losses like me and have a room pretty much decked out as a nursery with cot, wardrobe and changing table. It makes me anxious thinking about it.

Hopefully you won't have an experience like mine, but I wouldn't buy baby things before I was pregnant. Good luck.

It’s a really personal decision.
I have had several losses (now have 3dc) and I’m glad I didn’t buy anything before the 20 week scan. Lost one baby at 10 weeks, one at 12 weeks and the other at 16 weeks.
So I know I wouldn’t but it’s really up to you.
What does your dp think?

Thank you for your views Ladies, very much appreciated and food for thought.

@VenusStarr I'm so sorry for your losses. I agree that having the whole lot beforehand would make me very anxious too.

@FingersCrossedForChristmasAll They're from the White Company, this is the blanket and there's a squeaky llama toy to match. For some reason I'm just especially taken with them. Llamas make me laugh.

www.thewhitecompany.com/uk/Llama-Baby-Blanket/p/LAUMA?swatch=Grey

I bought a book from my childhood that j wanted to read to my future children many years before I even met someone to have DC with. I found it comforting really, to have it in a drawer.

I suppose only you know how you would feel. When I was pregnant with a MMC the name I was thinking about should the baby be a girl I still really like and we had on the shortlist for DD, but didn’t give it to her in the end. I know some people would have felt like the name belonged to the miscarried baby but I never felt like that.

@TheChosenTwo DP says to go for it, but he's not experienced any baby loss personally or with friends as I have, so is very positive about everything and less cautious than I am generally.

I think for me buying something for a 'someday' baby feels different to buying something for an actual baby that is then lost, if that makes sense? If I was actually pregnant I wouldn't be buying a thing until much later.

I had a very similar thread about two years ago under a different name. I bought a couple of babygros for a 'someday baby'. They are still in the cupboard but I don't regret buying them. I never bought anything else, just those. So I think it's fine, and best of luck.

Whats the harm??

Buying them or not will have no bearing on when or not you get pregnant.

I didn’t buy much until a week before my first was born, I thought a time before that was too soon!

It's beautiful. Buy it.

Meant to say, I don’t believe in jinxing! If you’re going to lose a baby, it really won’t be anything to do with keeping a pram in the house before the birth, or because you’ve bought a couple of things and put them away in a drawer!

I love the blanket and toy OP. I think the fact you have said you are buying for a someday baby is a good way to think about it. I can’t see anything wrong with keeping a couple of things you love in a drawer.
(I think I’d better stop looking at that site now, they have too many lovely baby things in the sale, it’s too tempting!)
Good luck with everything.

A baby can’t be jinxed.

If you like it, buy it. It's very cute.

I bought a couple of things when I was beginning a long journey of fertility treatment. They had a little drawer they stayed in, and eventually were used.