DD is in year 13. Taking A level English, law, RE and welsh Baccalaureate.
She was doing ok early in the lockdown, got 2 A grades and a C grade over the summer based on teacher grading.
She has always talked about wanting to go to university to study law and she assured me that she was getting on with her application, I always ask if she needs any school books or equipment but she’s always said no and feedback from the school is that she’s doing well and keeping up.
So, university application has not now appeared and I’ve had an email from the school to remind her of the deadline. It turns out she’s having a major crisis of confidence, feels that she’s slipped behind massively due to missing loads of school due to lockdowns and having to repeatedly isolate due to positive pupils in her bubble.
She is stalling on all discussions, not sure she’s smart enough to go to university and is basically struggling with online learning, motivation and is so lacking in confidence she can’t even write about herself in her personal statement.
She’s the type of girl who loves nothing better than chilling in her bed anyway watching trash TV so this lack of effort and routine has been very easy for her to slip into.
I’ve offered to help her write her statement and pay for extra online tuition if she’d like it, I’ve told her that university isn’t the be all and that we won’t be disappointed if she decides to look for an apprenticeship or trainee position but she must do something, simply laying around al day isn’t acceptable.
She says there’s no point in going to university if it means she has to d online learning as she just doesn’t get on with it.
She stonewalls any conversation and says she’ll deal with after Christmas.
Has anyone got any advice please? I’m trying to handle the situation carefully and am trying to let her make her own decisions but want to help too.
Has the pandemic affected any of your kids like this? She was doing just fine until all this disruption, just gutted for her.