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Big Fat Birthday in only a few weeks, but lockdown...

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GleamingHeels · 28/12/2020 19:51

Anyone who knows me will definitely know who I am here, so the 'potentially outing' doesn't matter much!

I'm going to have a Big Birthday soon

I am relatively newly widowed, I have no children

Since March I have been in an extended household with my single, eighty-seven-year-old, mother and also providing some respite for my father's wife (my dad is 90 and quite infirm) as a result I have seen none of my friends in order to keep both of my parents as safe as I can

My birthday lies between the second anniversary of my husband's death and the second anniversary of his funeral.

This time last year, I thought if I just got through the first anniversaries, I'd be gently starting to re-enter the world and experiment with what my 'new life' might be like, obviously the pandemic put a stop to that!

Every time someone has asked me what I'd like for my birthday I have just said as soon as we're able we're all going to the swankiest restaurant available, so no presents necessary, unless you really want to. I'll throw the party, you can pay for taxis and come and make it a fabulous night, My family and friends liked this idea, it seemed like a proper celebration involving everyone.

As it is likely that this won't be happening anytime soon, I have said well we'll just do it next year instead.

Now, as my birthday draws closer, I am receiving requests from people (who are lovely and worried about me being alone, or with one or the other parent) to ask how they can mark the day itself, I have tried saying 'it's OK, we'll just move it', but it's clear that my siblings and friends want me to find a way to mark it...

I am all out of ideas!

Any suggestions?

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deplorabelle · 28/12/2020 19:54

Black tie Zoom?

GleamingHeels · 28/12/2020 20:03

Yes, a black-tie Zoom might work to make people feel able to mark the day, but I'd feel everyone was just looking to me to create a celebratory atmosphere.

I do want everyone to feel comfortable and less worried, but I'd quite like something that I don't have to 'run', that would be fun for me too.

Maybe I should ask someone else to organise it (as a restaurant would) and make me the guest of honour...

I should have thought of this ages ago, it's a bit short notice to ask anyone to do this for me with only a few week's notice... argh maybe I should just do it

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RomaineCalm · 28/12/2020 20:54

If you google 'hosted Zoom party' there are companies that will host your event and even sort out drinks/cocktails etc. so you can relax.

Might be worth a look - I haven't used any so can't recommend anyone but I'm sure someone on here would be able to.

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geogteach · 28/12/2020 21:20

Just to let you know you are not alone . I have a big birthday next week have no idea how to mark it, in tier 4 so not going anywhere.

GleamingHeels · 28/12/2020 21:28

@geogteach thank you

It's not so much about me wanting to celebrate, it's more to make everyone worried about me feeling better, whilst also being able to quietly cope with it myself, I guess my original post didn't make that clear enough

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