Would counselling help me?

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DH is seriously ill, needs a lot of care, unlikely to be paid much longer, life for me is looking grim for the foreseeable, what with trying to keep a roof over our heads, cover everything at home and care for him.

Obviously that makes me sound awful, it's pretty grim for him too, but I'm furious with him for getting so ill. He's one of those middle aged men who always refused to look after himself, smoked, didn't eat right, not enough exercise etc. Obviously we don't know that this caused his illness but it is very likely a contributor.

Obviously, my anger, is not reasonable and I'd really prefer not to feel this way. Is it possible counselling could help me get over it? I've never had any sort of counselling before, but I can get some free through a work offer.

I can totally understand your anger. I think if you can get some free counselling through work it's worth giving it a try, if for no other reason than having a vent might make you feel a bit better.

I would take the counselling. If nothing else it is somewhere you can vent all your feelings, particularly those that you can't say to your OH. Counselling can also help you see things in a slightly different way, no one knows if it will change how you feel but I don't think you've got anything to lose. Just be totally open and honest with the counsellor, it's perfectly natural to feel anger, resentment, sadness and anything else you are feeling x

Yes, I would use counselling for this. you are in a sense grieving for your old life as his illness is completely changing your life as well as his. One of steps of grieving is anger...youre angry with him and some of it sounds justified so you need help to process.