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Neighbour Why has this upset me so much.

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Rizo1 · 27/12/2020 20:37

lived in
same house 32 years got on well with neighbour, This year in the summer she blocked our drive (side by side drives)with a skip couldn't park on drive for ten days never even asked if it was ok and also recently had CCTV fitted No problem with her having CCTV but camera points directly at dining room window and front door, OH spoke to engineer installing it and he explained it would have a privacy screen on blocking out our side on camera. We were happy with this but next day neighbour goes out and puts her car across top of drives blocking access, OH asks her to move forward so he could get car out .She started shouting he had no right speaking to people at her house, she could do what she wanted on her drive at her house and had had the privacy screen removed from CCTV. Since this she will not talk to us to try and resolve the problem and puts her car across the drive making access very difficult. When we have had things delivered they have had to park on road but when she is expecting a delivery moves her car forward so the delivery driver has access to both drives as neither are very wide OH out during day and my car is on road, Once delivery has been made she puts her car back across the top of the drives . We have always helped her out when asked, looked after her after husband died several years ago, and had I thought been a good neighbour to her. OH says to just ignore her and let her get on with it but it has really upset me and I keep thinking about it.

We are now getting our drive widened but as it says at the start why has it upset me so much???

OP posts:
TellySavalashairbrush · 27/12/2020 21:55

Our neighbour has started to behave in a similar way after us getting on well for years and supporting her when her dh died 18 months ago. I honestly think she’s having some kind of breakdown, so give her a bit of a wide berth of late. Parking bollard is something you definitely need to purchase and some heavy duty pots with conifers or similar in to create a dividing line on your driveway. Very sad situation but she needs boundaries (in every sense) to know you aren’t going to tolerate her nonsense.

Wowzel · 27/12/2020 21:55

I'd build an enormous sturdy fence down the boundary, even if it made my drive hard to use

StrandedStarfish · 27/12/2020 22:13

Hazel, is that you?

KiKiDeluxe · 27/12/2020 22:28

My neighbour has been very difficult this year towards us, after 20 years of getting on amicably. She suffered a bereavement last year. I'm sure the two things are related.

Rizo1 · 28/12/2020 14:19

Thanks to everybody for your replies. Have decided to get a fence put up to separate the two drives and in time widen our drive so OH can park on it.
I don' want to involve the police about the CCTV for now so may just get some bamboo plants in pots to block out what the camera picks up and see how we go with that.
It is sad after all this time but needs sorting.
Thanks again

OP posts:
londongirl12 · 28/12/2020 15:24

Yes that's wise OP. Limit all contact with her. And if the plants cover the cctv, then it's not worth the fight.

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