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Bedroom dilemma

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cgirl16 · 27/12/2020 08:33

Hello, am on the hunt for opinions please!

I have two DDs (5 and nearly 3) and am pregnant with a DS (due in April).

We live in a Victorian terrace - 5 bedroom but the top room is loft conversion so small and currently used as my DH’s home office. We have a spare room which will hopefully (post Covid) be used a lot for my parents, PILs when they come up to stay again.

I am thinking that I’d love the two DDs to share a bedroom for a few years - I never shared with my DB growing up but always thought it might be fun. Putting them all in their own rooms would mean losing the spare room and while I think that’ll happen eventually i think we could have a few more years of having a spare room!

My DH is not at all keen though - thinks different bedtimes would be difficult to handle, that they’ll disturb each other etc.

Does anyone have any advice from experience?!

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FortunesFave · 27/12/2020 08:51

Mine have a 3 year age gap and they shared...we stopped them sharing when they were 8 and 11 though because we moved and it was the right time.

They were fine...the older would go to bed with no issues just after the younger...at their age, the bedtimes could even be the same.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 27/12/2020 08:55

You know your sons... Can they happily share?
Mine shared happily until 7&5. Then the elder, quiet one wanted space from the noisy, lively younger one. Now they have their own rooms, but happily invite each other in and have frequent sleepovers. But have their own space to escape to.

THATbasicSNOWFLAKE · 27/12/2020 08:57

I think a 5 and 3 year old sharing would be fine.

My 7 and 4 year olds dont share but have the same bedtime except the elder gets to look at a book in bed for 10 mins. I think i would be putting a 3 and 5 year old to bed at the same time

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ExpensivelyDecorated · 27/12/2020 09:09

My two shared (their choice) from about ages 5/7 to 8/10. They had approximately the same bedtimes by then, I'd go up and read with them both in our bed once they were in their pyjamas, then the younger would go though to bed and I'd read / talk with the older one for a bit longer before they went to their room. Sometimes they went off to their room at the same time.

Almostslimjim · 27/12/2020 09:33

My 2&5yo share, boy &girl. Their choice. We moved their bedtimes to be the same, but it works for them. If it didn't, it would be a bit more of an issue

SmellyPooHead · 27/12/2020 09:35

I hated sharing especially when there was a spare bedroom that was only used occasionally

ScepticalBandicoot · 27/12/2020 09:36

I would just try it and see how it goes, and then if it's not working then no big deal really as you can just move one of them into another bedroom earlier than planned.

Connelloni · 27/12/2020 09:37

My 5 & 3 year olds share and have done since the youngest was 1. We put them to bed at the same time and don’t have any issues. They love it

HotSince63 · 27/12/2020 09:38

I absolutely hated sharing, especially when there was an empty bedroom barely getting used.

superstar84 · 27/12/2020 09:38

I'd make the office an office/spare room and give them a roll each

RickiTarr · 27/12/2020 09:40

Five bedrooms and three children is the opposite of a bedroom dilemma really. I was expecting one of those threads about a large blended family with alternating sexes and huge age gaps, a two bedroom flat and triple bunks. Grin

Marmite27 · 27/12/2020 09:54

I have an almost 3 year old and 5 year old who share.

They go to bed at the same time.

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cgirl16 · 27/12/2020 11:17

@RickiTarr Grin

Thanks so much all for the feedback. I think I will give it a go and if it doesn’t work I’m sure second hand bunk beds are a reasonable resale prospect!
Really appreciate everyone taking the time to comment.

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BashfulClam · 27/12/2020 11:35

[quote cgirl16]@RickiTarr Grin

Thanks so much all for the feedback. I think I will give it a go and if it doesn’t work I’m sure second hand bunk beds are a reasonable resale prospect!
Really appreciate everyone taking the time to comment.[/quote]
Keep bunk beds in one room, good for sleepovers and if relatives stay you can put the girls together then for a night or two.

Viviennemary · 27/12/2020 11:41

I'd just wait and see. I know people who have enough bedrooms for everyone to have their own. But DCs opt to share. No point in worrying about it yet.

DinosApple · 27/12/2020 12:08

My DDs shared from youngest being a baby to 9 - 3 bed house. That was fine, under a year and a half between them though, so had the same bedtime. It made life much easier for me as I wasn't pushed from pillar to post putting them to bed. Changing sheets on bunk beds is a special form of hell though- I don't miss them!

Then they had separate rooms, eldest had the largest with a double on the proviso that she camped with her sister when anyone came to stay. They still love a sleepover.

Then we moved to a 5 bed. The DDs have the two smallest rooms- which are good sized singles. A double is now a playroom, we'll have a spare for when my parents come to stay and one for me and DH.

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