Is this considered cheating

[Mamma2009]

Hi, recently found a text that my husband sent his best friend with a screenshot of a woman we both know saying id sleep with her. Hes trying to fob it off as a joke now but im so upset. This is out of character for him or so i thought. Hes also talking about the old days and how he missea them, going out all the time and reminiscing about ex lovers.. Any advice welcome...got a newborn and feeling so low as it is about myself now to see this has ruined my confidence.

Not sure I'd class it as cheating but he has certainly crossed a big fat line imo. Its really shitty behaviour imo and it would certainly make me look at dh differently. Its whether you can forgive this behaviour or not which may be hard as he doesn't seem like he's sorry for being a twat

Cheating- no
Inappropriate- yes

Men do this more often than you would think. They are their more authentic selves with their mates than their partners and families.

Even if it's not cheating, that doesn't make it okay. If it upsets you then it upsets you, and you need to have a chat about it.

You can probably relate somewhat to having moments of wishing you were child free and had more personal freedom again; I do as a mum of 2 (growing the 3rd). However that doesn't make his comments any less hurtful or any more appropriate.

You probably need to have a conversation with him about it. Perhaps you need to agree on how you can both have some 'me' time

It’s not cheating but it’s certainly grim. Does this woman have any idea your husband is perving over her? Yuk.

It’s not cheating. To be honest I think it’s unrealistic to think that, however happy and committed your relationship, you’re never going to be attracted to anyone else. We’ve been married for 20 years and both of us have looked at other people and thought “Hellooo” and that’s as far as it’s gone. Men are a bit cruder in the way they express it.

That wouldn’t count as cheating for me, but each couple sets their own rules.

No that's not cheating