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We're celebrating Christmas for the first time because

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jingleballing · 25/12/2020 02:59

We are Muslim.

We're not celebrating on the basis of religion. More as a general festive feeling of togetherness, family and fun.

Growing up, we never celebrated Christmas. Our religious festivals are eid , we have two eids but since my parents both passed away,this is a time when me and my siblings feel the loss of our parents the most. All the childhood memories, all of the associations attached to it relate to our beloved parents , and they become the two most difficult and bittersweet days of the year.

My lovely mum finally breathed her last on my wedding anniversary day. My tenth, in fact. A week after my birthday, and a couple of weeks before the birth of my dc. The whole month passes by for me with memories of her , the pain she suffered through at the end, her last moments, her final words to me, the way she asked me about my unborn child before she left us forever. I can't celebrate my wedding anniversary anymore, my birthday and my dcs birthday are shadowed by that day in 2017 when the world lost the best mother that ever existed.

So I can't begin to describe the .... sense of relief , yes that's what it is, I feel, because this year I've 'done' Christmas and all I feel is happy and excited ! There are no prior associations for me ! There are - thankfully - no memories ! Just a delicious , clean slate that I can fill up with happiness and fun with me, my dh and my dc! Finally, it's something I can wholeheartedly embrace and enjoy without a single feeling of sadness and let me tell you, it's the best feeling ever ! Grin

I don't know why but I wanted to put my story out there and share it with you lot! You all probably think I'm bonkers but never mind Xmas Grin have a lovely Christmas everyone and an amazing time with your loved ones Xmas Grin

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wonderstuff · 25/12/2020 12:59

What a lovely post, hope you have a great day. We are firmly atheist but love Christmas, a winter celebration pre-dates christianity, the shortest day is past us, spring will arrive at some point.

Theres a lovely thread on Twitter written by a Muslim man in the US doing Christmas for the first time.

NoGuestsCIothingOptionaI · 25/12/2020 13:03

Happy Christmas OP. Lovely to see someone happy. I wonder if there's a word for that [there is: Muditā apparently]. We use Schadenfreude a lot but I think on MN Muditā is just as prevalent. I wish I was having lamb but DS wants breadcrumbed turkey Xmas trees and DD and I are sharing a dubious Iceland roast. Enjoy the rest of youe day xxBrew Cake

TootDeLaFroot · 25/12/2020 13:06

Nadolig llawen from Wales OP! Have a magic day with your family 🎄❤️

Hailtomyteeth · 25/12/2020 13:09

Wishing you a wonderful Christmas, OP.

247SylviaPlath · 25/12/2020 13:11

Have a very merry first Christmas - it sounds like you have a great day planned🎄🎄🎄

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