I've given up.

[NoYouBloodyArent]

I got up this morning. Had a coffee. Had a think about the fact its Christmas eve.. About how I am feeling that the house needs to be perfect, the meal needs to be perfect etc. I thought, sod it, I can't be arsed, and I have gone back to bed. My heart is just not in it this year.

Anyone else?

I think a lot of people will be feeling the same this year op.
What’s that saying? You can’t dress up a turd 💩 😂 That’s how I feel about Christmas this year!
After a truly shit year, all our lovely plans of seeing family have been scuppered.
When Tier 4 was announced a few days ago I initially felt a bit bereft, not just for myself but for the millions of people who will now be spending Christmas alone or without loved ones.
I have just tried to accept it now and take it for what it is. No point fighting it.
We will still have a few presents, a nice lunch, and lots of chocolate. We will call and FaceTime family who cannot be with us.
I think all we can do is hope and pray for better times ahead.

Very similar
Burnt the red cabbage yesterday and nobody except me likes my Yule log.

I did think that worrying does take it out of you. Aren’t we all just permanently worried now? That nasty background feeling of things just aren’t right.

Agreed. But we have to just soldier on don't we? try and make the best of it. It's hard though .

Sod perfect. I'm gonna run the Hoover around and make a trifle but that's it today. It's not like anyone is coming over to witness our slovenly Christmas so who cares. The kids will enjoy it regardless thankfully

None of it has to be perfect. Just good enough for whoever will be there. For me this means that there are enough presents under the tree for DS and DD, and we have Bucks Fizz for breakfast. But I probably won't get round to washing the kitchen floor, and no one will notice!

Just be kind to yourself, do what you can, and be thankful for whatever you can do. And it's ok to acknowledge the bits that are shit. I hope that doesn't come across as too cliched.

Self care is more important now. I've been busy cooking special dishes for Christmas so the time can feel festive and try and compensate for not seeing family and friends. On the plus side I've decided not to do any housework as no one will be visiting and see that there is dust on every surface, I haven't hoovered, there are marks on the Windows and a ring around the bath. Sod it! It's more important now to relax with a book and look after myself.
Happy Christmas everyone and do what you need to relax and enjoy it.

🙋‍♀️ Loads to do, sat in bed drinking tea and on here, cba!

I finally felt festive yesterday afternoon - we've just moved house. Now I have to collect the turkey, make apple sauce, peel veg etc but there's only 5 for dinner tomorrow - it's more about making it a 'normal' Christmas for the DC tbh.

But I'm going to crack open the port this afternoon and put my feet up with some chocs then and chill out.

For the love of God just decide that this is going to be a Christmas to remember and the feckin most of it.
I'm wrapping presents this morning with the liberating knowledge that anything I haven't got, I can't get now.
Likewise the odd food item like posh ham joint couldn't get locally, likewise posh cheese. So gonna donate what I would have spent to the local food bank
If you cba, don't ba. The world will not stop turning.

Perfect is a ridiculous aim. Good enough is good enough. I am cooking for the first time but I am not aiming for perfect at all. Just tasty and ready at some point between 11am and 4pm! I will do a load of washing shortly, because I need clean uniform for boxing day, but that's it.

I can't be arsed, but apparently neither can anyone else in my immediate family so I'm buggered if I'm going to do anything special to make it 'perfect' for them - they aren't extending the same courtesy to me.

I have been the one trying to get it all organised for the past few years and received little or no enthusiasm or help in return so fuck em. No small children involved so it doesn't matter. I'm done with family Christmases after this.

You can't polish a turd but you can roll it in glitter!

And that is precisely how I am seeing this year. Never mind doing all the shit you normally do. Just do what makes you and your family happy.

For what it's worth though, I would get out of bed, have a run around with the hoover or whatever and go for a walk. I bet it'll make you feel better and everyone deserves a bit of cheer right now.

Yes me! But I've not really given up, more like just haven't tried! It feels too strange to try and make it a normal Christmas. I'd rather it was totally different for one year and back to normal the next!

I would love to but DH has gone to fetch 82 year old MIL whom we haven't seen in months. So i need to make sure the flat is sparkling to show we take cleaning/covid seriously. And the last few months we haven't cleaned so much cos no one has been to visit.

She'll still wear a mask the whole time, we'll be masked when preparing food. She'll eat at the end of the table away from us. It'll be so weird.

Wasn’t feeling it until my dad just dropped some presents off and seeing the nice shiny gift bags has cheered me up. I’m going to put my favourite Christmas song on “fairytale of New York” and get cracking.

Haven’t wrapped a thing but it’s our Christmas Eve tradition.