Hi, not long ended an 8yr on off relationship. It all started to go pear shsped after i got covid pretty bad an 2 days from hospital admission.
When better and out of isolation. I was told by my now ex that he needed space. To cut a long story short not been in the know at the time of his needing space, that he had been seeimg this girl from 15yrs ago, called me after she had thrown him out of her house after i had called him out of the blue, he took the call but she knew it was me, he was crying an said il tell u the truth u derseve to know. That he had been seeing his ex from 15yrs ago. Anyhows after weeks of him dangling me on a string saying give him time, i finally find out he'd been seeing her the whole time so for the last maybe two months he was quiet talkative abt the situ with her and it looked like they were together. Anyhow i ended up doing some revenge stuff,stupid i know. But now her mum called my mate to find out why im so against her an told her that the girl an him are just mates an havent slept together. If they are not sleeping togeyher then why does he go to her house an hang out and why did he make me think they were sleeping together. All along he has also stated that this girl isnt interested in him this way. I dnt understand why he out or 8yrs on the line by telling me this stuff. By keeping me dangling but knowing he wasnt coming back either. I knw as an adult i should respect myself an not have waited it out. But what i didnt say was that i found messages from him n her 8monyhs prior an he said shes not into him that way. I put trust in them both an kinda forgot abt her. An now find this out. But i yold him when i found the texts that if itz her you want then go get her, i also messaged her explaining that since shes been in touch, i see a change in him that i couldnt do an if shes interested then go get him to. Yes i know IM A MUPPETT for telling them both.
Is it normal for a guy to go to an ex house,sit with family an her kidz an yet knowing shes not into him that way but still keep me dangling. Y not just end it with me. Knowing i said go get her n him to her previously.
Now im in situ where ive found out they are just m8s an not slept together.
During this time he said he be in contact b4 and after xmas. Why..... if ur seeing her and her family.
During my choice to stop contact. I managed 6 days. Until i passed him by in my car with stereo up, window down laughing away with my son. He waited a full 4 hrs to drunkenly text saying you alright saw u today you were right by me in your car.
Y not leave me be an go get her.
I'm so bloody confused.