What has 2020 taught you?

[NoEffingWay]

I have learnt to appreciate the small things, to let old grievances go, to love my dp and ds openly and freely, that kindness is invaluable and to be thankful for all I have.

It turns out all I needed I had anyway, but didn't realise.

The general public are morons

Again, not all of us.
Always makes me laugh when people refer to "the general public" being x, y or z; as though they are not a part of said general public themselves. How can every single person be a "moron"?

Herd Behaviour

That my daughters are so much more resilient than I knew
That my husband is so much stronger than I knew
That my job means more than I thought to me
That I miss my family and my friends so very much
That there is no cure for stupid and that good citizenship seems to wear off quickly
That I should appreciate all that I have much much more
That it’s ok not to be ok but keeping going is the only choice for all these reasons

I've learned that:

• I'm lucky to have my job (public sector)
• My job can in fact be done entirety from home
• I can connect with my family and friends in many other ways than just face to face
• it doesn't always in fact take "ages" to get pregnant after 35 - in some cases it can take just one month (😵)
• being pregnant during a pandemic is difficult but also a blessing and a promise of hope at the end of the darkness
• Christmas is over rated and I can do without it
• ditto wine

I need other things in my life as well as family.

Wish I had something positive to write. Glad to read other people's positivity.

I had no idea what stir crazy or not getting out much actually meant!

That elitism exists and is well represented in our government who (largely) have no idea what the people of this country actually live like.

That strong leadership is everything and we don't have it in the UK. I could forgive incorrect decisions in a pandemic; I cannot forgive lying, lack of accountability and sheer incompetence.

That people love to judge other people.

That I have amazing friends and family who I need to live a good life.

My children are amazing and have hardly complained throughout this whole shitshow.

That working in hospitality is brutal during a pandemic yet everyone is missing us greatly.

@nextdoorshush

at least half the population are utter idiots

Agreed!

That running doesn’t drop the weight but a daily stable muckout and ride makes it drop off with seemingly no effort 😃

• That nothing should be taken for granted.
• That being with my family is actually what counts the most.
• That my children are more adaptable and accepting of situations outside of their control than I thought possible.
• That DH, although a bit annoying at times, is solid and dependable and we are a strong couple together.
• That I miss hugging my mum so much it physically hurts.
• That my MIL is an even bigger idiot than either me or DH thought.
• That it is possible to cry a bit, pretty much every day, for 10+ months.

Its proven that you are only ever as happy as your unhappiest child.

And that we can have a brilliant holiday in England, we don't need an all inclusive package holiday to have fun ( but I still want to go on the one I have paid for next year please).

• Not to take for granted the little things
• Enjoy every second, never complain about having “too much on” or “being busy”
• That I’m extremely lucky and we are in a very privileged position
• I can count on one hand who my true friends are

That im grateful to still have a job and could keep a roof over my head.

My dad died of covid in October.
I've learnt that life is too short .

I love my little family unit more than I realised. Chasing a career and the ridiculous pay rise isn't worth the stress.

That there are many many people for whom this has been significantly harder and I am diverting all our wrap around care fees to local charities to support. Hope that doesn't sound wanky.

Every man for himself. Though I wish it wasn't.

I’ve learned how resilient my husband is.

Six months of job hunting with asshole recruitment agents and he kept the fight up throughout.

Oh... and that recruitment agents are assholes.

Every man for himself. Though I wish it wasn't.

1000% times this.

I also learnt that the common cold doesn’t fuck off even with social distancing and masks and what have you.

That MN is full of extreme/angry feminists/transphobes.

That I love being home with my family and our pets and that we are quite self-sufficient.

That there's no-one to help outside that. That very few people care about SN kids including the professionals who are supposed to help them. That a child can be rejected for help as they go mute.

That we can have a lovely holiday in the UK. That the government will expect me to be able to not work so I can provide 1:2:1 for DS and live off thin air indefinitely whilst raising our bills.

That 3.5 months without 'non-essential' medical treatment will fuck up my pain levels for the rest of the year.

On that note, to always have 2 months supply of controlled drugs because the bastards who closed the border between me and my medical team have zero fucks to give.

That my hairdresser will sell me hair colour on the black market

That spring is even more beautiful when there are almost no cars on the roads.

-That I’m fortunate to have a secure, well paid job & shouldn’t take it for granted
-That many people just think about themselves & their own children. Sod everyone else
-That travel & seeing the world is really important to me

@IsoIsobaby20 we don't all feel there is an absence of leadership. In Scotland, many people who weren't exactly fond of Nicola before, have commended her leadership at this time.

It has reaffirmed how much I love certain people in my life and vice versa. And how is important to actually say that out loud to each other sometimes and not just take it for granted.

And to the opposite of @Smallgoon it taught me how many great women are on mumsnet who are willing to fight for their rights. It also taught me how easily long fought for rights can be taken away.

I also learned how my workplace is awful when it comes to mental health

That I’m really fucking lucky.