DH being called grandad..

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OK I know this is absolutely ridiculous but I'm just desperate to say this out loud and I don't want to say it to anyone IRL....

DH and I have 3 children together all under 6 and hope to have another soon, we're in our 30s. DH had his first born (a son) when he was very young (teens). He was a good bit older by the time I met DH so I was never step mother type thing, and tbh we don't have much a relationship at all because all time he spent with his dad tended to be just the two of them.
Anyway DH first born became a father himself fairly recently, obviously making my DH a young grandfather.
Now I don't know if it's because DH and I have children very close in age, or if it's because in my eyes DH was still young BUT I cringe so badly when I heard him being referred to as Grandad. Like almost to the point I can't even look at him and makes me feel so uncomfortable.
As I said I know it's absolutely ridiculous so don't worry about telling me that!
Many there's some other wife's of young grandparents out there who can relate or maybe it's just me...

I appreciate it feels very odd to picture your husband as a grandfather, but he is, so you might as well embrace it. The "bizarreness" will wear off soon, I'm sure.

So his son is also incredibly young to have a kid

Like 18 ?

You just have to face it 30 is not as young as you thought 😂. Wait till you hit your 40s and your own dc start telling you things you liked in your twenties are retro.

Well its not as if you're being called Nana is it?

One set of my grandparents always went by their first names rather than grandma/grandad as they felt they were too young to be called that. Other people probably found it weird that we called them by their first names.

My grandad hated being called that because it made him feel old (he must have been late 50s / early 60s) so my eldest sister invented a pet name for him instead.

I became a Grandma at 36. My OH finds it a bit weird when I’m referred to as ‘Grandma’ and I get that...but....if I thought he ‘cringed’ every time he heard it then I’d be gutted. I AM a Grandma and a very proud one at that.

Are you sure it’s not a little bit of jealousy? I mean that in the nicest possible way. Sometimes someone referring to someone we love in a different way brings out a bit of jealousy. I only say that because I used to hate my step sisters daughter calling my dad ‘Grandad’ and after a while I realised it was because I saw him as ‘my dad’ not someone else’s ‘Grandad’

I was a grandma at 42 so not that much older. I love being grandma, people are usually surprised when I mention my grandchild because I have 2 younger children from my second marriage.
My husband is called grandad Hogfather (my daughters step dad) to differentiate from my first husband who is grandad and does struggle with it a bit because he thinks he's too young 😂 but he always addresses himself as granddad to the child. I think he secretly likes it really and he loves her. I'd be upset if he didn't let her call him grandad or if I thought he cringed at me being a grandma.

My dh had his first some young, I had my dc late in life. So his grandchild is older than my daughter

That was written badly!
I meant my 2nd husband thinks he's too young.

On the other hand I have twice been mistaken for my DCs grandmother. One time a few years ago we were at a visitor attraction which had some classic cars
DC was looking at them and chatting away, and a passing woman pointer at a mini and said, "Oh those would have been popular in your grandma's day".
I just said, "I don't think so, she was born in the 1940s'

I'm in the same boat as you and I seriously have a problem with shagging a granddad.

Just wait in 15-18 years time he will be greatgrandad by the rate they are going 🤣.

Congrats on becoming a (step) Grandma, OP.

We also became parents in middle age so it's sometimes a little striking how much younger than me a lot of parents are.

Personally I'm much happier dealing with little ones with age, experience and some assets on my side. I really wouldn't let it bother you.

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Are you sure it’s not a little bit of jealousy?
Maybe. I mean I don't directly feel jealous but it may well be because he's got a role that has absolutely nothing to do with me. It never bothered me his elder son calling him dad even thought that wasn't anything to do with me, probably cos my kids call him dad too. Same as it doesn't bother me him being called uncle because I am auntie to the people that call him uncle, if you see what I mean.

I'm glad I made this thread now. Got a good few laughs and some comfort in knowing others feel the same

I'm Pops to my Grandchildren

My dad was late in my siblings lives but all the kids call him "grandad" even though he's not their bio grandad...

Do you not get called Nanny "name"? As you are married I would include you!