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Today would have been Jack's 26th Birthday. Candles are lit...

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Elderflower14 · 22/12/2020 19:27

My oldest son Jack was born prematurely 26 years ago today... He lived for only two hours... Not a day goes by that I don't think of him...
Mum and I went to his grave today.. He's buried in our family plot in the grounds of the church where his Dadda and I got married. We chose a spot next to my Grandads brother and sister who died when they were children...
😔 😔 😔
So many lovely friends on Facebook all over the world have candles lit...
I often wonder what he would be doing now.. Would he be married? Would I be a Granny by now... His brother wanted to be home tomorrow and we were going to his grave together but Tier 4 put the kybosh on that...

Today would have been Jack's 26th Birthday. Candles are lit...
Today would have been Jack's 26th Birthday. Candles are lit...
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BopToTheTop · 22/12/2020 19:31

I would also love to join and light a candle for Jack tonight

Although gone he will never be forgotten, thinking of you OP

petalpower · 22/12/2020 19:32
Flowers
Cakeismyhero · 22/12/2020 19:32

Thinking of you and all with candles lit today. Never an easy day and I'm sure covid has made it much harder for many Flowers

jillypill · 22/12/2020 19:33

Thinking of you Thanks

tortiecat · 22/12/2020 19:34

"This was a life that had hardly begun
No time to find your place in the sun
No time to do all you could have done
But we loved you enough for a lifetime"
Thinking of you and Jack OP Thanks

IggyAce · 22/12/2020 19:36

Flowers thinking of you & Haapy Birthday Jack.

Motnight · 22/12/2020 19:37

Thinking of you, Op.

KyraGoose · 22/12/2020 19:38
Flowers
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Elderflower14 · 22/12/2020 19:39

@tortiecat

"This was a life that had hardly begun No time to find your place in the sun No time to do all you could have done But we loved you enough for a lifetime" Thinking of you and Jack OP Thanks
When Ivan Cameron died another Mner and I were invited by the late and much missed Rev Ruth Scott to help put together a piece on Child Bereavement for Good Morning Sunday on Radio 2.. Ruth read Gone To Soon and the show was inundated with requests for it... 💙 💙 💙
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Superstardjs · 22/12/2020 19:39

Flowers for you and Jack and W.

Toocold · 22/12/2020 19:41

Thinking of you ❤️

BLKS7 · 22/12/2020 19:54

Thinking off you ❤️

Happy Birthday Jack 🎈🎂

After losing my daughter in a tragic accident in 2019 a lovely friend sent me this:

If Christmas is hard,
If you’ve lost someone dear.
Just look in your heart,
And you’ll know they’re still here.

The star in the sky,
The light falling snow.
The robin outside,
It seems like they know.

If this is a time,
When your struggling through.
Just do what you can,
For what matters is you.

There’s no need to be Merry,
There’s no need to be bright.
Just do what you can,
It will all be alright.

Although it’s about Christmas I try too adjust it too all situations when life gets hard xxx

CeeceeBloomingdale · 22/12/2020 19:56

Thinking of you, I've lit a candle Flowers

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Elderflower14 · 22/12/2020 19:59

@BLKS7

Thinking off you ❤️

Happy Birthday Jack 🎈🎂

After losing my daughter in a tragic accident in 2019 a lovely friend sent me this:

If Christmas is hard,
If you’ve lost someone dear.
Just look in your heart,
And you’ll know they’re still here.

The star in the sky,
The light falling snow.
The robin outside,
It seems like they know.

If this is a time,
When your struggling through.
Just do what you can,
For what matters is you.

There’s no need to be Merry,
There’s no need to be bright.
Just do what you can,
It will all be alright.

Although it’s about Christmas I try too adjust it too all situations when life gets hard xxx

Beautiful words... Thinking of you ♥ ♥
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stillfeelingmad · 22/12/2020 20:01

Happy Birthday Jack, you would have been a few years below me at school and the same age as my little brother, will be thinking of your family tonight Thanks

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Elderflower14 · 22/12/2020 20:10

I love these words.... 💙

Today would have been Jack's 26th Birthday. Candles are lit...
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didot · 22/12/2020 20:15

Happy birthday Jack 💙

Greenbks · 22/12/2020 20:20

Happy birthday Jack. You’ll never be forgotten

My son Zain was born prematurely in February and lived for 45 minutes. He made my husband and I parents and brought us closer together.

I’ll be thinking of Zain and Jack tonight. Sending lots of love your way.

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Elderflower14 · 22/12/2020 20:22

@Greenbks

Happy birthday Jack. You’ll never be forgotten

My son Zain was born prematurely in February and lived for 45 minutes. He made my husband and I parents and brought us closer together.

I’ll be thinking of Zain and Jack tonight. Sending lots of love your way.

♥ ♥ ZAIN ♥ ♥ Sending huge hugs and love to you and your husband.....
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myusernamewastakenbyme · 22/12/2020 20:24

Happy 26th birthday Jack xxx

Mustbe3ormorecharacters · 22/12/2020 20:26

Jack is a great name for a young man, what does his dad do for a career?

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Elderflower14 · 22/12/2020 20:33

@Mustbe3ormorecharacters

Jack is a great name for a young man, what does his dad do for a career?
I lost my DH when ds2 was almost 5... He was a retired SAS soldier who trained all the soldiers who went into the Iranian Embassy in 1980...
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Mustbe3ormorecharacters · 22/12/2020 20:42

I sent you a PM Xmas Smile

AdaColeman · 22/12/2020 20:49

Kindest thoughts to you and your DS2. Thanks Thanks

AnnieAreYouOkHun · 22/12/2020 21:10

I would also like to light a candle for Jack. Thinking of you both tonight xx