Being made to feel guilty

[donewithitalltodayandxmas]

NC for this
But being made to feel guilty for sticking to the rules by family and some friends
Because I won't break the rules
So I won't pop over for a coffee as not allowed but would meet them outside for a walk as allowed
Family wanting us to stay the night xmas as if we are there anyway ( which I can kind of see )
They say come over we can sit 6 m apart have window open etc etc and don't get me wrong I work in an office with less mitigation than that ,
So how do I address it other than say no like I have , feel like just cutting everyone off and switching phone and sm all off for months and locking the door and hiding away

You have to do what makes you feel comfortable. I they have an issue with that then that is their problem.

If they try to ignore your choices then says a lot about them and any respect, or not, they have for you and your feelings.

Sometimes you get people who think family trumps all and it often doesn't.

If they have an issue....

I would feel quite comfortable telling my family to back off but some people feel obligated to run with the herd...

You have to do what you feel comfortable with. I was prepared to stand up to my husband over visiting his mum on Boxing Day (as I’m a teacher in a High school and therefore mix with many people and MIL is vulnerable) but Boris ended that row for us.

Its hard to speak up at times i just had a repair man in ,dc let him in as I was upstairs and told dc to put a mask on to open door and back door was open as he had repair in the kitchen to do so thought allow fresh air in .
Came down and he isn't wearing a mask I had one on and stayed in front-room he never came with in 6 ft of me as I stayed right out the way.
But to think this person is going into multiple houses and I am sure not everyone stays away, every other workman I have had in wear a masks
Im guessing we are ok as I kept well back and door was open to allow fresh air in but I didn't say anything when I probably should but it was too late anyway as he was already in
He was only here max 15 mins but I prob still should of spoke up thats what I am finding hard to do

In your house your rules apply. I would have said something.