Just that really. I'm anxious avoidant but only in romantic relationships- I have a healthy secure attachment to my friends and siblings. In fact, I only realised I had an insecure attachment when I started dating. My marriage to my ex, was secure albeit an emotionally abusive one. I not once felt anxiety or insecure with him during the 16 years we were together ( probably because I didn't really like him though)
So I've read about attachment but can't find much about how to become secure and how to attract secure people. I tend to attract anxious or avoidants.
If you were anxious avoidant, what strategies. did you do to heal and become secure to attract a secure attachment with a romantic partner?