"Not doing Xmas presents this year"

[Bigbird007]

AIBU? I am really angry with my Parents. At the start of November they said "We're not doing Christmas presents for adults this year and dont want anything back. We will all just buy for kids" which works for me. They have reiterated this all of December and have just turned up with lots of presents. I feel it is so inconsiderate, as it puts us in a very uncomfortable position that we have nothing for them. The parents are very controlling in general and I can't shake the feeling that this is another power play. "We gave loads of presents and got none back" to friends and family etc.

Just to clarify, lots of presents for me, the OH as well as the kids.

Tough ...not on you on them for being so childish and playing such silly games with you.Sod em this year.Abandon your guilt and carry on for next year too...break the tie of them by sticking to their own rules which they made and lost out on! They only have themselves to blame. This is their daft issue not yours.

I would send them a bunch of flowers and a bottle after Xmas to say thank you, that’s you covered imo

Say thanks and leave it at that. Don’t acknowledge it too much.

What did they say when you asked them why they've bought you presents?

@Chickenninja - That it "wasn't planned" and was only "something small" (which it wasn't)

@onlyfoolsandmothers. I will do that thankyou. Saves the drama down the road.

You're silly to be angry. Say thank you and send them some flowers. The end.