What would you say to family who don't respect you following covid rules?

[Stillmonday]

I'm getting so sick of some family belittling me because I'm following the guidelines and they think it's ridiculous and over cautious. I'm so fed up with being made to justify why I'm being so careful.
What would you say to these people?

Point them towards the death statistics and then ask them to tell you that you’re being ridiculous and over cautious.
Or get them to speak with any nurse or doctor who work in a hospital and ask them if they think the current restrictions are not needed.
At the end of the day op you don’t have to justify anything. They are ones who should have to justify why they think they are so special that the law doesn’t apply to them.

@PoptartPoptart

Point them towards the death statistics and then ask them to tell you that you’re being ridiculous and over cautious. Or get them to speak with any nurse or doctor who work in a hospital and ask them if they think the current restrictions are not needed. At the end of the day op you don’t have to justify anything. They are ones who should have to justify why they think they are so special that the law doesn’t apply to them.

Exactly this.

Also talk to those who have had covid and are still feeling the effects months later and those who’ve lost someone without being able to be there for them because of restrictions.

I think there is no good way to negotiate this.

I have some family who make me feel very stressed because I feel they are being careless - eg., MIL who has health conditions but insists on her weekly shop along with SIL; SIL who was asked to self-isolate but justifies going out to the shops and for walks on the grounds that she wore a mask; other SIL who works on a covid ward and is shocked we don't want her to drive up from a Tier 4 area for Christmas.

I also have some family who make me feel very stressed in the opposite way - I have a SIL who spent the entire summer telling my elderly parents they were basically committing suicide by stepping out of doors, insisting they were selfish for going out for walks, etc. etc., and I had to deal with the fall-out in terms of their mental health. My mum found a lump in her breast and was so scared she genuinely believed the more sensible option was to wait to tell her GP, than to seek treatment.

It seems to me that all of us will know people all across the spectrum of responses, and it's just a complete mindfuck to try to approach it with any logic. Rightly or wrongly, I just make sure I periodically assess what I'm doing myself, and after that, I try to let what other people do be their concern. Otherwise you drive yourself mad.

I have told clients who are moaning about wearing a mask (hair salon) "oh I have to be ultra careful because I have a nephew with bad athsma and I need to protect him" and if I had family being dicks
about following rules I would mention another person that they possibly don't know but who I have a connection to eg daughters best friend, colleagues mother etc. I think when you mention specific people you are trying to protect it makes it more real and harder to argue with!