Annoyed

[Hotcrossbuns2190]

Hi I'm a long time lurker & a first time poster on here! Me & my best friend have been best friends for about 10 years now.
Been there for each other through thick & thin.
However since I had my DC she's been quite distant & I haven't much contact from her, despite me messaging & ringing her on various occasions over the last year! I usually hear from her weeks, months later. It was my DC first birthday 2 weeks ago.
No message, not card, no present, nothing. She finally messaged 2 days later.
I don't think she would've bothered even sending a message if she hadn't seen my thank you post in social media.

Sorry hadn't finished, accidentally pressed the post button!
Just some background, she's currently going through the adoption process, maybe that has something to do with her being distant?
How do I go about discussing all this with her?
I don't know if I should just let our friendship go or try & salvage it!

Maybe she's keeping her distance from you to protect herself. Maybe she's not gone about it in the right way. But if she's going through the adoption process maybe it's too hard for her to see you with your child at the moment?

I’d talk to her about it. Say you’ve noticed she’s been distant and not so interested in your life / child, is everything ok with her and is she struggling with the adoption process etc. (Word it more elegantly that that but you know what I mean)

When I have heard from her, I always ask how things are going with the adoption process, everything's is going well & she's super happy & excited about it.

It might be hard for her to say she's struggling as you've recently become a mum (Depending on the circumstances of why she's going through the adoption process).

@OrigamiOwl I don't think so, she's constantly around friends babies, babysitting & she has neices who she looks after regularly too