Still worry about my 17 year old.

[Paranoidmarvin]

My son will be 17 next week. And I still worry about him now as much as I did when he was younger.

He is applying for apprenticeships. He is going to be having driving lessons. He is old enough to mostly look after himself. Yet I still worry. How do I let go?
At what point can I get into my head that he doesn’t need me the same as he did before.

Is there a trick to not worry about if he has eaten or has he done the work he should off or is he happy or am I just going to keep worrying about him even as an adult.

How did you feel about ur kids as they got to this age.

I don't think you do stop worrying - you just learn to hide it better!

Mine is also 17 and I do struggle with letting go, but I'm getting there slowly with helpful hints from him .

I remember being in my room a lot. But from the other side it is hard. I actually miss spending time with him as he is a fab person. But it’s hard to let go. To get my head around the fact he doesn’t need me anymore.

I could have written this exact post. My son will be 17 tomorrow. I've found in this past year since he turned 16, that he's so much more distant, he's always out of the house at school or working and when hes here he's not here. He's a really good kids but still
I worry so much that he's making good choices. I don't feel that he's anywherer near old enough to run his own life yet.
it's really hard, I miss that little guy he used to be.

Mine is 22 but developmentally delayed. He's just starting to get a bit more interested in going out and meeting friends. I'm always so glad when he's home but realise he needs to do this and I need to let him. While I know I legally have no say I do ask him to keep me roughly up to date with his plans as he's still vulnerable and I would need to know where he is if anything went wrong.

Hate to tell you but the worry never stops... mine are aged 23,26,27 and 28... and I'm still worrying... the worries just change :)