Please give me a reason / something to hold on for

[BrokenBrit]

My previously happy and loving marriage broke down this week as my spouse left me and our home a week ago out of the blue due to them falling for someone else. I am absolutely heartbroken.
My fledgling business has gone bust this year due to covid so I currently have no income apart from the gov grants that I think have now stopped.
Can’t see family or friends due to covid and restrictions.
Feel absolutely hopeless for the future and nothing to keep going for.

Hang in there. You matter to people. Reach out to your friends for some contact.

Thanks, I have been phoning and I’ve had some lovely texts but it just isn’t enough. I just feel so alone.

Things absolutely do get better. 2016 was my low point, partner left me for OW totally unexpectedly, I was suddenly single parent to a baby. It was his house and he made my life miserable pressuring me to leave.

Anyway the point is, I look back and am so pleased he is out of my life. It was hard but things turned out exactly as they should. You do it one day at a time. X

Things will get better. Such a crappy year for you but one day you will look back and see how far you’ve come

You are special and wonderful and deserve to be loved. In fact, you are loved - your texts and calls show that.
You have so much to deal with, but you can do it - one moment at a time. Much unmumsnetty

Thank you lovely people.
I just feel so betrayed and devastated. I never expected this. The start of this year I was so blissfully happy. I had a great marriage, lovely spouse, happy home, enjoying my new business venture which was going well, financial security and now I have none of that and can’t even go and hug my friends.

It’s just too much .

Oh gosh I have nothing useful to add but I just want to offer a hand hold. I feel so down too but have no right to really. Things will get better. Please please just hang in there. One day at a time. Thats what I'm doing.

It fucking sucks it feels like the end of everything but the world still turns the sun will still rise and so will you keep putting one foot in front of the other one day this will all be behind you

@ChristmasBigBalls you have every right to feel however you feel. We will always have someone better off and worse off than each of us and sometimes our minds can be cruel. We all need and deserve kindness. Thanks for your kind thoughts. You take care of yourself too.

Thanks @slipperywhensparticus.

I just can’t bare this pain. I can’t see things working out. It’s all too much right now.

Life is so changeable. If you can just hold on and push through this horrible time, it will get better. Thinking of you and sending all positive thoughts and strength. Please ring the Samaritans if you feel hopeless. They really helped me when I hit rock bottom - and things did get better, eventually. Handhold

OP as a single person you can go and see (and even stay with) one family/friend now as a support bubble, if there's anyone you can think of?
Please hang in there and take care of yourself, there are support agencies like Mind or Samaritans too if you just want to chat to someone?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sometimes life is just hard. And this year has been especially hard.

You've had a lot thrown at you and it's no wonder you're feeling this way. But please just hang on in there. Don't take it one day at a time, take it one hour at a time. Right now you can't imagine things being better - but they will be. I don't know when but I do know they will be.

Talk to friends and family and take whatever support is offered. And as a pp said, ring the Samaritans. Try and find something to do that you can get absorbed in - a really good book or tv programme - and before you know it, an hour will have passed, and then another, and then you will have made it through another day. Treat yourself to things that make you feel better (not necessarily expensive things) - lovely food, favourite shower gel, a walk somewhere etc.

Thinking of you.

I promise you that things won't feel like this forever. Right now, maybe you can't feel that hope for yourself, but please let us hold onto it for you, and carry it for you for a little while, until you're able to take it back. It's real, and it will grow and be part of your life again.

Sending you love and light, and better things yet to come.

As my Dad used to say, don't let the buggers get you down!

Just don't let them. They don't care if you're upset. The only person who suffers is you.

If you were walking along and a car splashed you, what would you do? You'd jump back out of the way, and check yourself down, and walk on. Do that. You can. We all can.

Trouble tends to be sudden, and part of your challenge at the moment is the shock of these changes. Just give yourself time. And find a support bubble to join. You need company.

I'm sure you can make a success of your business. Or modify it a bit and then push on. Can you focus on that? It's something only you control. And it will be very rewarding.

Give yourself a free hour just to think about where it could take you. Focus on your good. In time you will forget the past. It's the only way. Xx

Thanks for the words of advice and support. It’s been nice having them to read through to stop feeling so alone.

OP, a few years ago I felt suicidal every day for months. It was a terrible time, and quite blurry now, and I don’t know how I kept going. But since then I have had many, many days when I’m so glad I didn’t take my own life because peace of mind, and even happiness, has come back. I promise you things will change. We are able to survive the most terrible pain, all I can suggest is keep reaching out, and try to have just even a tiny bit of trust in people who’ve also been in a dark place and can tell you things really will get better.