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Scared of starting all over again

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yarncakes · 17/12/2020 22:59

I moved to Wales a year ago for my husband's promotion, which means more money and it was the best decision we have made as he is on a better salary. But for me I had to leave my job which I loved and find another one straight away and sort out childcare at the same time due to my working hours so I am settled for now and saved money for our deposit to buy a house.

We found a house we love and the only one we want out of the rest of them because we cannot afford to live in the city, downside is that it is too far for me to travel to work every day and even on the train I'd have to get 3 of them there and back, which I simply cannot do with a child in tow. Luckily my husband can go directly. Which means now I have to leave my current job again and find something else nearby.

Even though I managed before, this time I am worried about doing it all over again and wondering whether I'd actually be able to find one this time. Not only that, my mental health suffers if I am at home all day with nothing to do. I am already alone, away from my family and friends. I'm sure i will be OK and we finally have our dream home, I'm just worried that's all. What if my husband loses his job, how would we pay for our mortgage if I don't have one?

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KILNAMATRA · 17/12/2020 23:46

Moving not easy but time is the answer here... you need to settle in, get to know the moms in your kids school, and that's how you start again.. best thing but UK is lots of people move areas and even in the village I moved to loads sre not originally from there anyway! So get chatting.. and do some online education pm me for links to keep you busy.. and sure before long itll be alright.. I moved country after 41 years in another one!

SillyOldMummy · 18/12/2020 02:14

You you have nothing to do, you will be busy applying for a new job and finding out about your new home town and having a gazillion playdates/SD playground meet ups to make some friends for yourself and your kids.

Moving house is on that list of crazy stressful things to do, isnt it? And changing jobs is further down the same list. Of course you're scared to have another big change so soon, without a support network of friends and family. Talk to your DH about your worries, if he doesnt sympathise and try to help then you have a loser for a husband.

Regarding the house - why not get mortgage payment protection insurance, at least until you feel you are in a secure job.

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