I have dreamt of becoming a teacher all my life but after I did my degree I was told to come home. I mentioned it a couple of times after that. She always came up with why I shouldnt do it eg I wouldn't be very good at it, she didnt think my health would be strong enough and just made me feel rubbish about myself.
Then my dad died and 3 years later I met my now dh and moved 40 minutes away. She has tried to mess that up by criticising my dh and saying he wasnt good enough. Then I said I was pregnant, she wasnt happy, she just decided I wouldn't cope as a mother then I had my second, she said it was too soon after the first.
She is very needy and wants me all to herself (never treats my brother in the same way). She is a very negative person and is quite nasty about everybody.
I am now in my early 40's and my dh has recently encouraged me to again look it to training. Fast forward a few weeks and I have been accepted to all 3 training courses I applied to. I am ecstatic and wouldn't have even tried without the support of my dh and the school that I work in.
I told dm all this today. She thinks we cant afford it and shouldnt take a student loan to pay for the course fee. The course is 1 year. I wont be able to cope, it's not fair to the DC, I'm too old, we'll have our house repossessed, my mental health isn't strong enough ( I had pnd after 2nd dc).
It's made me question it all even though it's been a dream for 20+ years. Everybody else says I'll be a great teacher . My dh is 100% backing me.
Why is she like this? Why cant she build me up?
Am I being silly still trying to fulfill my dream? What should I say to her?