Do you think there are some things we're better off not knowing?

[FuckThisBullshit]

How he really felt about you... what your colleagues really think about your capabilities... how pretty your friends really think you are... what people say when you're not around. What would have actually happened in this scenario if you hadn't have intervened? Would it have been as bad as you think or would it maybe have worked out okay in the end after all? If you could say, have a book with two columns and the left column had a version of what you believe whilst the right had the actual realistic version... would you read it? Basically, are there some things where being oblivious is okay... or is the cold hard truth always essential?

But what is the 'cold, hard truth'? If it's what other people think of me, then it's no more objective than what I think of them, surely? And what would have happened in a situation if I hadn't intervened would require a time-machine or a split universe with an alternate reality.

I thought this was going to be something about politics and whistle-blowing, though.

I was given some 360 fredback and was presented back as verbatim with no context. I found it quite brutal and took about 8 weeks to get over / shake it off.

I'm not a believer in the afterlife, but it's the kind of thing, if there were an afterlife, that I'd like to find out after I'm dead.

I’ve always thought it’s none of my business what others think of me.
Stops me worrying too much

@ihatethecold

I’ve always thought it’s none of my business what others think of me. Stops me worrying too much

I love that @ihatethecold 🤣😂

I've always thought the only superpower I would turn down would be the ability to read others thoughts. Internal script is so often governed by thousands of factors and isn't the same as how someone chooses to behave so I do not want to know what happens in someone elses head about me.

I also think I wouldn't want to know if the opposite choice I had made would have been better without the ability to change it.

I definitely think there is a place for what you don't know can't hurt you in some situations

For example there was a complete sociopath I was involved with years and years ago. By the end of it I was a shell of a person. I always said if I could have any present it would be that book with two columns... what I thought was true (mostly lies probably) and what was actually true. Did he cheat etc. But had I read it... yes I would have known the full facts but would it have been worth the emotional turmoil it no doubt would have caused.