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Would this annoy you?

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FourPlatinumRings · 16/12/2020 16:04

DH just got back from registering the birth of DS and he's managed to put my place of birth wrong (different city). I'm quietly very annoyed but trying to keep myself from showing it because it won't help anything if I do. Apparently the error will always be shown but they'll add a footnote showing the correct information for £75. It annoys me more than it rationally should that this document will forever bear an error.

I'd have registered it myself but only one parent was allowed (COVID) and I'm exclusively breastfeeding so it seemed to make more sense for him to go so I didn't need to bring a newborn with me. I regret it now! Would you be annoyed, or would it not be an issue for you? I'm trying not to be outwardly angry with DH because I know it won't help!

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Ohdoleavemealone · 16/12/2020 16:07

Yes I would be annoyed by this.
I thikn with time it would fade though and become one of those stories.

Onmyright · 16/12/2020 16:08

I'd be annoyed but would try not to let it get to me because it won't actually make any difference in the future for you child. I would have to say something to him but then would let it go.

MrsToothyBitch · 16/12/2020 16:11

Yes- and he would be paying the £75 out of his money.

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towtheconstantbloodyrain · 16/12/2020 16:13

My parents spelt my name wrong back in 1991 .

It’s never been an issue - they did go back to amend it, and I have two birth certificates (both say amended copy) but it’s never been a problem .

In all honesty I totally forgot until the DWP questioned me on it (‘why did you change your name?’) a few months ago !!

HotSince63 · 16/12/2020 16:15

Yes this would annoy me.

He had one job, not a hard one, and he got it wrong.

It would make me feel like "if I want something doing properly I have to do it my fucking self".

Shoxfordian · 16/12/2020 16:20

Why not be angry? He's an idiot
I would be annoyed too

AlwaysCheddar · 16/12/2020 16:21

This might be an issue as it won’t match your passport presumably?

SoupDragon · 16/12/2020 16:24

It wouldn't annoy me as such but I would definitely get it amended.

Mistakes happen. I assume he didn't go in there with all the information written down and still managed to get it wrong - that would annoy me.

MumChats · 16/12/2020 16:28

This would really annoy me - BUT it's done and it was obviously a mistake (and hopefully he feels like a right tit!) so i agree with trying not to be outwardly angry. Also agree that he should put it right.

And LOL at @towtheconstantbloodyrain - at least he got your baby's name right!

Notglam · 16/12/2020 16:30

It’s not ideal but it’s done now. Will be a funny story to tell DS when he’s older.

It’s ok to be annoyed but he made an error and is probably annoyed at himself more. I’d let it go.

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FourPlatinumRings · 16/12/2020 16:35

Thanks for validating my annoyance- it really helped- and some of your responses made my laugh, particularly @HotSince63. I'm trying not to be angry because he does seem very sorry and has been apologetic, but it was very uncomfortable to ignore the rage ball in my chest! I feel better now, thank you. Thanks for sharing your experience @towtheconstantbloodyrain, helped me put it in perspective! I'm glad it's not caused you any issues. @MumChats- I know! The irony is I made really sure he knew the name and how to spell it before he went, but it didn't occur to me to make sure he knew anything else. I presumed he'd ask if he didn't. More fool me!

He will be paying for the amendment @MrsToothyBitch, and I've also said he can do the admin for it (and he'll do it in a timely manner, or else(!)). @AlwaysCheddar it's a good point- hopefully getting it amended will stop it being problematic.

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Frownette · 16/12/2020 16:36

Oh I'd be annoyed. But the original mistake can't be changed so amendment is the best compromise (and a good telling of of DH).

If that were me I'd sit him down for a mock serious sarcastic quiz. "So what is my middle name? What is my date of birth?" etc and tell him he's being scored.

Ridingthegravytrain · 16/12/2020 16:39

Mine put my maiden name on one of our children’s!! It was a nightmare when I was applying for her passport.

I remind him of it every time a form needs filling in now!!

Nicolastuffedone · 16/12/2020 16:51

This might make you laugh.....when a relative of mine had her first baby, she went to ask the midwife for something for her. Midwife said ‘what’s the baby’s name?’ My relative said ‘Milly.....oh no! wait! That’s the dogs name!’

buckeejit · 16/12/2020 17:03

I'd be annoyed. However I know someone who sent her dh to register ds birth (4th or 5th dc). They were going to call him Kevin but the dh got confused & registered him as Keith!

Aquamarine1029 · 16/12/2020 17:09

I would be annoyed, but my degree of "annoyedness" would depend on whether this type of thing is typical of him. If it is, it might be the final straw because I have near zero tolerance for people who constantly fuck up. If not, I'd chalk it up to an unfortunate error.

HotSince63 · 16/12/2020 17:13

I assume once you told him he'd fucked up, he contacted the registry office straight away to see how this could be rectified.

It goes without saying that doing the admin of fixing this and paying for it is all up to him and he'll be cracking on with that tomorrow.

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