My family never bother with presents for me but spoil my husband!

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It pisses me off, for my 40th I got a card shoved through my door with cash in it, didn't even get a phone call yet when it was my husbands birthday they came round with loads of wrapped gifts!
I don't know why I'm surprised that yet again another year is here and they've sent 12 gifts for my husband but only 2 for me. They've even included a gift labelled 'to daddy & baby' from them so my husband gets a joint present with our baby yet nothing similar for me.

I find it really upsetting. What pisses me off the most is that I do all the Christmas shopping for them (and everyone else) and wrap them and pay for them etc yet I'm never even thought about.

It's not that I want 'things' I just find it really upsetting and hurtful that this happens every year.

Well, I wouldn't be 'doing all the Christmas shopping' next year!

That’s very odd. What’s your theory as to why they do that?

Reverse thread?

They love him, think he's the best thing in the world!

Do you have any idea why they would do this?

I ask as my family used to put a lot more thought and effort into my DH (then DP)s presents than they did mine.
I mentioned it once and was told it was because ILs didn't seem to spoil him at all and he'd mentioned once how nice it was they my dm thought about what I liked and bought me things related to my interests - BUT they also made an effort for me whereas your situation sounds different.

If it them being plain mean just remember to tell them next year that you're not doing presents and knock the whole thing on the head.

Put your foot down with a firm hand. You owe it to your children.

It isn't healthy for them to be taught by example that a mother is a thing to do work for the family with as little appreciation as a slave. Nor that a man who allows that for his wife is fit to be allowed near children, let alone admired, by her, by her family or by her children..

Fast forward and imagine yourself looking at those children, grown up, despising you. Worse, they will be copying in their own relationships what they learned. Being a good doormat is not being a good mother. Colluding in contemptuous and hurtful treatment for a wife is not being a good father.