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Am I being too hard on myself?

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hillarypcof · 15/12/2020 18:43

Just that really.
I'm 24, I have a Law degree and I graduated and went straight into a job in the law & justice arena. I was so happy there and within 9 months of being there I had already worked up a rank and had a promising career ladder ahead of me.

Unfortunately I was horrendously bullied (professional jealousy) to the point where I could not take it any more, and I had to leave this job to save my mental and physical health. I gave it a good go to stick it out!

I now work in a completely different field, still progression ahead of me but slightly different to what I envisaged 3 years ago when I was at Uni. I just have some days (like today!) where I feel like I've taken 3 steps back, and like I am "behind" my peers who are all posting pics of buying houses etc.
I still live at home with my incredibly loving and supportive parents.

I guess I just want to know if I'm being too hard on myself that I don't "have it all sorted" by now? You can still be "successful" and not be on track to owning your own home by 25 and all the other "highlights" that social media of others would lead you to believe?

Somebody told me that I have "wasted my life" in going to uni/working in where I work now. If it wasn't for the bullying, I would still be in job A enjoying a fruitful career! But I was too seething at their comment to justify myself to them.
And now I'm just festering over that one comment :-(

Tia xx

OP posts:
LynetteScavo · 15/12/2020 18:47

Yes, you are being too hard on yourself.

Stepintochristmas2020 · 15/12/2020 19:37

You're 24... you dont need to have it all sorted at that age.

At 24 I was still doing my accountancy training contract, low wage, 1 child, rent we could hardly afford.

Now at 30, and having moved company twice since, I have a good career, we have started building our house - a house we designed with everything we want in it and massive gardens, and have a second child aswell.

Things can change massively in the space of a few years.

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