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Juliancantcope · 2020-12-15T17:02:34+00:00

If you had the power to go back and live one day (and one day only) of your life again which one would it be and why? Would you change anything you did or use the day to change a future outcome in any way?

Sunsetboater · 15/12/2020 23:52

Seems very shallow compared to a lot of OP but I'd re-live the day/night an ex boyfriend called me and asked if he could come pick me up right now? It was very early days into the romance and he lived a hour away - this was about 9pm, I was about 18 at the time, still living at home with the parents (he was 32) and I was absolutely besotted with him. I'm 56 now but can still remember the pure excitement and skin tingles of being with him.

ScienceSensibility · 15/12/2020 23:58

I would relive the day I interviewed someone, and offered her the job, despite having concerns about her attitude and previous work experience. She was qualified and we needed a replacement urgently for staff member who had suffered a health episode.

Turned out to be the worst decision of my life. Think Single White Female. She caused havoc in the workplace and fixated on me to solve all her problems (which were clearly mental health related). She made my life a misery for a couple of years before I ended up leaving.
There have been many repercussions, and I often wish I could go back and change that decision.

SimplySusanna · 16/12/2020 00:00

I'd go back to the day my dad died.

He was in hospital, recovering (so we thought). I was stressed and rushing and late to visit him. I was only there for 35 minutes and had to rush off to pick up the dc and he died suddenly that evening.

I couldn't have changed the outcome but I would go back and spend all evening with him. I would remember to take him his favourite sweets. And mostly I would make my mum go with me rather than agreeing with her that she would go tomorrow instead 😔

EstuaryBird · 16/12/2020 00:18

I’d go back to the day that I broke up with my first boyfriend because someone convinced me that he was seeing someone else. I was so upset that I moved to London and went off the rails for a while.

About 20 years later the person admitted that they’d lied because their brother wanted to ask me out.

After 50 years I still love that boy and I know he was ‘the one’ that I should have been with.

CooCooMoo · 16/12/2020 00:31

I'd go back to the day before I discovered a lump that change the course of my life. Three months later I was infertile and didn't think I would see my youngest 4th birthday. It all worked out OK but my life change forever. I now live with chronic pain, and am horribly aware of my own mortality. Saving that, it would have been much worse if I hadn't discovered it. So I suppose the worse day of my life, actually saved it.

parsnipinapeartree · 16/12/2020 00:37

I have so many wonderful memories and I have a DH and x2 lovely DC, have been successful academically and professionally and travelled the world. But I would go back to Glastonbury in 1999 for a day with DexP. The music and the atmosphere have stayed with me forever since and I was soooo loved up and kept bumping into loads of uni friends as well as being part of a huge happy group of friends I had grown up with. Being adult is so much harder and lonlier

KenAdams · 16/12/2020 00:50

Giving birth to my daughter. I never realised I'd only get to experience it once.

FlyNow · 16/12/2020 05:31

What a nice thread OP.

I'm not sure if I'd want to relive the day of my dcs birth, definitely the day after though.

And one of the first music festivals I went too, everything came together and it was just such a good time.

maddiemookins16mum · 16/12/2020 05:33

The last day my mum was ok enough to interact. She died 5 days later and the last few days she was not conscious enough to know much.

rorosemary · 16/12/2020 06:17

It doesn't have to be the whole day (some of it was pretty shit) but the moment that I saw my daughter for the first time was the absolute best of my life. I'd happily do the four days prior to that to just experience that short moment again (emergency c section so she was whisked away after a minute, but it was the best minute ever).

Whengodwasarabbit · 16/12/2020 07:52

Any ordinary day at home when my boys were little again. They are young adults now and I’m so proud of the men they have grown to be, but I’d really love to have a rainy afternoon at home back when they were little. To do crafts and read their stories and listen to them chatter together. To hold their tiny hands and smell them. They were so fun and loving. I loved having 2 boys close in age. We had the best times doing simple things, I’d love one more day of just that.

mistermagpie · 16/12/2020 08:10

I'm NC with my parents. I was always on the cards and we had very little contact anyway, but about seven years ago I was trying (again) to improve the relationship and went to visit them.

That day was the worst day of my life. It was awful, we got into a terrible argument my dad was abusive and we haven't spoken since. I will never see them again.

We would always have ended up NC, it was inevitable really, but I would like to have that day again to just not go and see them.

MarthaWashingtonsFeralTomcat · 16/12/2020 08:15

The day after my eldest child was born. I would love to have just 5 minutes with her that weren't fraught with stress, guilt and anxiety. I enjoyed my subsequent babies so, so much more. That said, nothing will, for me, ever top the profoundness of "becoming mum". In that way, getting to know her was (whisper it) better than with my other kids, because there was a weight and a zing and a completeness to our dyad.

There was nothing wrong as such, I was just so very overwhelmed - although absolutely delighted with what I'd (little old me!) had created.

Ismellphantoms · 16/12/2020 08:57

The day my fiancé told me he wanted to cancel our wedding. It was about three days before it. I pleaded with him to go ahead as I thought it was just nerves. Six weeks later it was all over. He left and I had a nightmare divorcing him as he had disappeared.

Deathraystare · 16/12/2020 11:41

Not even a whole day - just the night time going out with friends (which we did regulary) for cocktails! Or maybe one Christmas when the cousins came over (their mum had sadly died then). We did have a good time though. All in the same bedroom to sleep!

emeraldcity2000 · 16/12/2020 12:10

Lovely thread. I really love my children but I wouldn't want to relive the labour for either.... as a single moment I might chose the moment your babies are handed to you though.
For me either wedding day or a day on our honeymoon in Burma - e-bikes around the beautiful temples of bagan followed by a sunset hot air balloon flight. Felt like total freedom.

emeraldcity2000 · 16/12/2020 12:11

@Whengodwasarabbit

Any ordinary day at home when my boys were little again. They are young adults now and I’m so proud of the men they have grown to be, but I’d really love to have a rainy afternoon at home back when they were little. To do crafts and read their stories and listen to them chatter together. To hold their tiny hands and smell them. They were so fun and loving. I loved having 2 boys close in age. We had the best times doing simple things, I’d love one more day of just that.

This made me quite emotional... I'm now very excited about my 4 year old finishing school tomorrow and spending Friday baking with the kids xxxxx

IamAporcupine · 16/12/2020 12:42

I really do not know, but I think it might be something that I regret and do not fully want to admit

@StoneColdBitch - that's very interesting.

My dad died with his partner and me next to him, however, we always felt it was the moment when we were chatting about something else and not strictly paying attention to him. Almost as if he just sneaked out when we were not watching.

ChristmasUserName2020 · 16/12/2020 12:47

The day I met my ex-husband. I can remember it vividly. I was dancing with my friend in this high class establishment (dive) that we often used to frequent. Over her shoulder I saw a lad we both knew and I said to her ‘hey, there’s Matt’ We went and said hi and my mate was gabbing on for so long that my now ex came back into the pub to find out where ‘Matt’ (name changed) was. I then started to chat to my ex and the rest is history. If I’d just ignored Matt and suggested getting a drink or just stayed boogying then things would be so different. I may have got back with my boyfriend who I’d just dumped (and I’m now married to) Instead, I didn’t marry the right one for another 16 years and was stuck for the twat for 5 years 😭

TakeMeToYourLiar · 16/12/2020 12:47

Also my wedding day, several family members have died since so could see them again too

barnanabas · 16/12/2020 12:56

The day DD1 was born. Fertility treatment and a difficult pregnancy, but an easy birth. I felt invincible and as though I'd been given the chance to live the life I wanted. And DD was just lovely. I'd love to do it again and commit more of it to memory.

I'd also take any day of a wonderful holiday with very dear friends last summer. 20 people in a huge house and it was almost entirely joyous.

JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 16/12/2020 12:59

I’d go back to early July...the day I told my husband it was over. Not because I wanted it to be over but because I was down a hole and I couldn’t see a way out.
We are still together and mostly doing okay...but I know he struggles to process my heartlessness and I understand why. I would go back and make my voice heard differently. There were ways to say what I needed to say without doing it the way I did it. And I regret it every single day.