Has anyone got/had a prenup?

[Christmasbeach]

I’ve got a feeling that DP is going to propose over Xmas/NY.

I do love him but my parents had a very messy divorce which ended with them using me as a pawn (looking back mum was desperate as dad was going to wipe the floor of her).

Unfortunately Ive lost both of my parent leaving me with 1.5 houses. As far as a twenty something from the outside I look like I’ve got it made.

I don’t want to seem like I’m presuming the marriage is going to fail but I’d hate the idea of someone being able to take or for me to get into debt for me to be able to still have the house my mum worked her arse off for.

I know that U.K. prenups aren’t watertight but is there anyway I can protect the properties without just staying engaged?

@waitrosetrollydolly

Too late now as he more than likely knows, but anyone else reading this, always make out you live in a rental property, never tell people you have money /assets / property . That way if they love you it's actually you they love , not your bank balance.

That was you've deceived your partner for years about your life? What a fucked up thought pattern

Same as above, assets that you own don't belong to your husband on marriage. I have my own home, it is willed to my children. There is no automatic right to a spouses money or assets.

If there is just you and him I'd say there must be some doubts there if you're thinking down that route. I was in a similar position with now DH (boyfriend only of a couple of years at the time), never even think about it now but at the time I thought if things went south it would be my own fault and tough 🙈

I have a brother on the other hand who is in a relationship with a woman who already has children with someone else so a prenup in this situation is probably more common

I have a prenup - my OH has a large amount of assets and it’s part of his partnership agreement.

It’s not the most enjoyable process but it’s protected us both, including some inheritance that I have, which although I wasn’t bothered about particularly, it’s still good.

Best thing to do is get some advice - it doesn’t mean you believe the marriage is doomed, and as my solicitor put it, she was facilitating the best grounds for our marriage, which makes it feel a bit less doom and gloom!

The only thing that is tedious is you have to update it every 5 years or at the point of having a child (depends on the prenup but this is what we agreed).

coriander why is that a bad strategy as some people do prefer partners if they think they are minted, so why not keep quiet about your assets and see if they love you for you and not your assets ?