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Need to vent

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AndAwaySheWent · 12/12/2020 19:18

I don’t have a good marriage...it’s a long story. My husband just called me a waste of space..I don’t want to cry or be upset in front if him. I will not give home the joy of ‘breaking’ me...so sat here typing as don’t have anyone in real life to talk or for support...I’ll be ok in a few minutes just that it’s been a rubbish year due the virus and work is very stressful and I’ve referred myself for CBT to cope with various crap..I’m not expecting any support from him in all of this but it’s just that it hit me harder due to the current shot storm..

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Thirty2andBlue · 12/12/2020 19:21

Flowers I'm so sorry you're having such a rubbish time. You don't have to put up with this though, you deserve better x

mbosnz · 12/12/2020 19:22

I don't have any advice to give, or admonitions. I'm just going to sit here quietly with you, sending you virtual love, comfort, and strength. You are not a waste of space. You matter.

Jo84n · 12/12/2020 19:26

Please don’t let this man talk to you that way!, you deserve better, sounds like he needs some manners x

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AndAwaySheWent · 12/12/2020 19:26

@Thirty2andBlue
@mbosnz
Thank you...it means a lot. It’s silly..I’m a grown woman but it just hit hard...

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ChelseaCat · 12/12/2020 19:27

I’m sorry things are rubbish for you OP Flowers You are not a waste of space.

mbosnz · 12/12/2020 19:30

Of course it did. You might be a grown woman. Doesn't mean to say that you won't find being verbally abused and degraded by your husband easy to take.

Have you got family on your side you can reach out to? Friends? Or would that be difficult?

bearlyactive · 12/12/2020 19:33

Sending hugs. I hope that the power of MN kicks in so that you can eventually feel calmer and go to bed, safe in the knowledge that you are the total opposite of a waste of space.

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AndAwaySheWent · 12/12/2020 19:38

I don’t have any family here and unfortunately not been successful in making friends. Colleagues from work is all I have ...but as I say they are just work colleagues and nothing else...
As I said it’s not a happy marriage..I’ve learnt to exist...but now that’s become a problem as in why I’m not enthusiastic enough..I think it stung more this time because it was said that ‘
I’m wasting his and our daughters time and a waste of space..it’s because she was brought into this and I was sort of pushed out of her life...

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AndAwaySheWent · 12/12/2020 19:40

@bearlyactive thank you, yes I really needed to speak to someone as I don’t want to cry. Just holding it in..I don’t feel like eating will go to bed when I feel like moving from the sofa..just need a bit more time to feel ‘normal’

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mbosnz · 12/12/2020 19:40

He's trying to push you out. Don't let him. Your daughter loves you, and she needs you. He is putting words in her poor wee innocent mouth. They are not her words.

When you're talking about 'not enthusiastic enough', are we talking in the bedroom? Why would you be enthusiastic with a man who is hurting you, not cherishing you?

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